Letters to the Editor
Anne in NYC
Published Letters: 321 Editor's Choice: 37
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Embrace the Future
[Read the article: U still up?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It’s funny to me that the author didn’t realize she was on a distribution: very screwball and sort charming. But I think she might have painted Scott as more of a player then he actually is – I’m sure a few of his buddies got that, ‘r u still up?’ note too. The magic of that message is it takes on different meanings depending on who gets it – that’s why it’s perfect to send out to 10 or 20 different people.
To me text messages are like a modern telegraph. In his memoir Hemmingway wrote about crafting the prefect telegraph, with just a few well chosen words, and I think we can apply that directly to texting. I don’t think Mr. ‘r u still up?’ is up to Hemmingway’s standards- but that says more about HIM then the technology.
And in a city that you can no longer smoke indoors cell phones and texting have sort of replaced cigarettes. Rather then reaching into a handbag for a sleek little cigarette case you reach in for your cool phone. And rather then spending your time puffing away you spend your time crafting that perfect, short note. It keeps you busy, gives you something to do with your hands and keeps you in touch with friends.
I even think modern shorthand is sort of fabulous. It’s really much, much better then proper shorthand (a thing I never could get the hang of) and I even use it at work when I’m taking notes.
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Marketing
[Read the article: Is Wii Fit the new striptease?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I also suspect this isn’t a real, amateur post. This video is certainly a marketing effort and, given that we’re talking about it, a very successful one. I’ve seen Broadsheet make this mistake a lot.
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Sad
[Read the article: More on "the YouTube divorcée"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Any reality show is only going to make fun of her. This woman is car wreck you can’t look away from and that’s what the TV producers are banking on. They want to see her loose it on the screen. I’m sure her attempted suicide would be great for ratings (and don’t think the producers haven’t had that discussion).
And I would argue that her ex-husband is quite sympathetic. The no sex thing, the on-line freak out and now the reality TV show makes her seem crazy. I wouldn’t want to be married to her. But I don’t want to abuse her for my viewing pleasure either.
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I’m still more excited for Hell Boy this summer
[Read the article: The superheroes of "Sex and the City"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I think Selma Blair is the way cooler super hero. It’s all the fighting for truth and justice and things.
Although drinking cosmos and walking in high heels is a pretty awesome super power – you realize how awesome it is when you see the girls exiting the clubs at 4am failing at it miserably.
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Sounds like having parents who date
[Read the article: Scenes from a group marriage]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]My parents divorced when I was 5 and I formed very strong bonds with several of the people they dated after. Some of these relationships lasted for years, a couple people moved in and I spent Christmas with their kids and all that happy family stuff. But when it’s suddenly over it can be awful and shocking for a kid. It’s not completely unlike a death because ex-live-in-girlfriends and their kids don’t get visitation - those people are just gone. I guess I’m glad I had these people in my life even if it was only brief - but it did create trust and relationship issues I still struggle with. I wish my parents had spoken to me about appropriate boundaries and expectations – but I guess love is blind and they weren’t thinking of the end.
I think the poly stuff is sort of interesting. But, I’m sorry to confess, I’ve always found the people to be sort of creepy. The couples I’ve known either feel like sexual predators or one person is clearly dragging the other along. And if you’re really serious about community living I don’t see why it’s always about sex. It seems disingenuous.
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@ bigguns
[Read the article: Scenes from a group marriage]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]“But sex cements us so that we don't crumble when bills pile up and one person's car is crumpled in a 9-car pile up. So, we hump in communities to sustain the community. Unfortunately, that very humping can also fracture communities.”
But if you know it’s likely to fracture I just don’t see why you have to get the kids involved. Sexual drama is fun for adults. I get that. But it’s not fun for kids. I think whatever other arguments you make or that’s the basic truth. I’m not a prude. But I do think it’s odd to encourage your kids to have relationships with all your sexual partners. Even if you do remain friendly with that person post break-up they’re just not going to have time to be as involved with the kids as they once were. They’ll be on to new relationships and that’s not bad – but it’s likely to really mess with a kid’s head even if that kid plays it off like it’s nothing.
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@ Laurel962
[Read the article: Scenes from a group marriage]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Snap! You fail the diplomacy section for the day – but you are 100% correct with the poster you’ve addressed.
I’m not trying to tick anyone off: I’m just one of many posters here who has been grossed out and unimpressed by every poly person I’ve ever met. It’s sort of nice to hear from people who say they’ve made it work – but if you’re really out there you’ve done a hell of a job hiding yourselves. You can hardly blame us if we can’t see you – especially when your icky, pervie brethren are so visible.