Letters to the Editor
Anne in NYC
Published Letters: 342 Editor's Choice: 38
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Makes you wonder if he ever read Jane Eyre
[Read the article: Could this week get worse for mothers?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Because that first wife really was crazy and keeping her in the attic was probably the nicest thing to do when the alternative was an asylum. Sure she ended up dead – but our girl Jane got her guy. I think comparing this Austrian freak to one of the most beloved, romantic literary figures of all time was a mistake. It’s nice that he tried to get the chick lit reference in – but it was a miss.
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@ Why indeed?
[Read the article: Could this week get worse for mothers?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You know, you sound like such a raving lunatic most of the time I’ve stopped reading your posts or the post of anyone talking to you.
Too bad – because every once in a while you make a good point. You’re right about why the wife in Austria should be held accountable to some extent.
Still – this post was all over the place.
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@ Pendragon3
[Read the article: Could this week get worse for mothers?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]From what I’ve read he terrorized his wife and children above ground too (his sister in law is coming forward with this story). I really think that’s the wife’s excuse: she was abused and controlled herself.
Still – she was a grown women and she should have known that this situation was wrong for so many reasons. She should have known it was time to get help. Being scared or dumb is only an excuse – I don’t think it absolves her.
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People watching is one thing…
[Read the article: The creepy old man's guide to Paris]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Hanging out in front of a staircase so you can check out panties is another (is this man 10???). Thinking your nieces and nephews are attractive little people is one thing – hanging out at a school so you can check out children is another.
Broadsheet is getting awful and it’s not due to content: it’s because the Fox News gang is taking over.
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I wouldn’t tell the boyfriend (not yet anyway)
[Read the article: Our friend got drunk and went to a hotel room with a bunch of Marines]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Telling the boyfriend is secondary to getting Jan help. Maybe I’m way out of touch – but an STD isn’t necessarily the outcome and even if it is it’s not the end of the world. Deep breaths. It’s likely everyone is fine. Jan has seen a doctor. She’ll have her results anytime. Let’s not act prematurely in the name of drama and moral superiority. Unless Jan’s boyfriend was a virgin when they met, and unless he’s gotten a blood test (rare for men) there’s a good chance he’s sporting a dormant case of herpes or HPV or some such himself. And condoms don’t protect against those things. So it’s not even like positive results mean anything to this story. Not that I’m excusing Jan (she’s out of control) but let’s keep it real. I think this could all devolve into some awful, made for TV style intervention if the LW isn’t careful.
It’s easy to gossip and guess and decide what’s right. It’s harder to call around and get some advice and really help Jan. These girls are just 26. How the LW acts now defines what kind of person she is. I don’t want to see this LW taken advantage of and dragged down – but I don’t want to see her be the type to toss people out when things get messy either.
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@ Allie_
[Read the article: Our friend got drunk and went to a hotel room with a bunch of Marines]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]When was the last time you had an STD blood test? For me it was 10 years ago and I had to ask for it special and pay the extra lab fees (I recall it was $200). That regular batter of tests you get from your OBGYN – they don’t test for herpes or HPV.
So, you may have herpes, and if you’ve ever gotten a cold sore you do have herpes! The oral and genital varities can pass from your mouth you your partners’ genitals and vice versa. You can pass it along even if you’re not having an outbreak and even if you’re not using a condom (rare, but it happens).
I’m not trying to wish bad things on you – but before you call so many people unworthy of dating you’d better be damn sure you’re not one of them. I’ve dated several guys who I knew had ‘cold sores’ (isn’t that a nicer way to put it?) and they were all cool, decent, wonderful men.
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There isn’t enough exercise in the world.
[Read the article: My husband doesn't want to have sex with me]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This could be the meds. Other posters are right to think of it first. But remember we’re not just talking about sex – we’re talking normal intimacies. This guy won’t hold her hand or pet her hair. I can imagine her all fresh faced and lovely from all that clean living Cary suggests and her husband still won’t touch her. It sort of makes it worse. It makes me want to shut the door and cry. I wonder if he’s gay or if he’s having an affair – these thoughts must drive the LW crazy.
I think it’s awful to suggest this 32 year old woman should just shelf her sex drive. It’s like asking a 19 year old boy to shelf it through meditation or a vegan diet. This has to be fixed! I want couples counseling and I want a time line and if all else fails I want a sweet, attentive boyfriend and a speedy divorce.
LW: you are not selfish. What you want is normal and you deserve it. It’s kind of you to want to sick it out, and I do hope it’s as easy a fix as adjusting his meds, but if you don’t want to live without sex you don’t have to. No one would blame you for leaving.
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Why Paris is a bad idea…
[Read the article: My husband doesn't want to have sex with me]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It’s full of lovebirds! How is the LW going to feel when she sees people of all ages and nationalities and walks of life kissing and holding hands and in love? How depressing for her!