NY is an ‘at fault’ state when it comes to divorce. The partner who is ‘at fault’ is certainly in the weaker position. I know it’s often different in other states but I’m no expert on the subject.

But even if you are right and the adultery won’t hold up in court I think it’s important that the LW know what’s going on. The only way you can make a really good decision is to have all the cold hard facts out on the table. And whatever this husband is up to I don’t trust him to tell the LW what’s really going on.

What a great title!

I’ve done this sort of work in the past but I’ve called myself a ‘personal assistant’ or a ‘personal organizer.’ Its good free-lance work and the late night phone calls are super rare (at my off-hour rate that would be the most expensive soup ever). I have a friend who has made a career out of odd jobs like this. When I read articles like this I think about my work and how I can brand myself to take advantage of all these little fads.

There are always going to be silly people with too much money. I’m happy to help them out if they’ll give me a cut. And, if you only have a couple of clients at a time, it’s great work for a mom trying to get back into the business world.

A few posters have touched on this – with 5 kids I don’t image they’ve got any real time for each other. And sex is so super important. It’s when the sex slows down/stops that's when people start saying, ‘I love you, but I’m not IN love with you.’ And no joke – a big reason people do get married is FOR the sex. Married people, on average, do have much more sex then singles.

I know two weeks after a baby is a crazy time to be thinking of this. But if I was this LW I’d be making sure I was giving out the best, most excited, sweetest blow jobs ever. It’s entirely possible it’s that simple.

Those ‘daddy’ photos are so creepy I don’t even have the words for it. It makes that sheet photo eveyone is so excited about look innocent. I was really shocked that Broadsheet didn’t mention this photo sooner. When I first saw them I thought it was her boyfriend too.

And sorry – this isn’t a vacation snapshot and this isn’t a private ‘safe sex’ talk. This is on purpose sexy/creepy. It’s so icky. Just wrong, wrong, wrong.

And before you defend this photo – take another look and imagine that you at 15 with your dad. I love my dad – but yuck, yuck, yuck.

Because just last night I was gossiping with a group of friend over this photo spread and we were all grossed out by that daddy photo. And I’m not a prudish person and I get along with my dad just fine.

The daddy photo did cross and odd line. Especially since it’s just about identical to the myspace snap shot of this young lady sprawled across her boyfriend’s lap: and the media can’t shut up about how inappropriate and sexual that photo is.

I have been very happily married for 10 years, thank you. And I we still have sex. A lot of it. I enjoy it too. Crazy and insulting I’m sure – but it makes for a happy marriage.

Sex isn’t the only thing a marriage needs – but without some fun, hot sex your marriage won’t stand a chance. So I do stand by that advice.

I get the attraction of these silly rags. I have been known to pick up the occasional copy of the NY Post myself – but I don’t consider this junk ‘news.’ It’s more of a guilty pleasure. I think the person who compared this article to a Cosmo quiz has it about right.

I think it’s cool to post on these oddball stories – but let’s be careful to remember who is saying these crazy things.

My first week at school a big, butch lesbian (really nice lady with a very impressive beard) showed our Animals Rights group a slide show on this subject. Of course the photo I remember best is the Hustler cover with the girl half way down the meat grinder (only her well heeled legs are visible). The big argument is that women are viewed as meat much as animals are.

But I don’t see that Hustler photo having much at all do with (just for argument sake) the ‘Good in Bed’ cover art. I think the reason chick lit uses body parts is that so we, as readers, can all see ourselves playing the part of that heroine. Keeping her vague allows us to see ourselves in that period dress or on that beach. Putting a face on the cover of a book can limit the appeal.

I have also noticed that trashy men’s books (anything made into a film starring Harrison Ford) use the same techniques to lure readers in. You never see the hero’s face either.

Lumping all these cases together is in bad taste. I mean – it moves from the truly horrific to a woman who is only accused and who may well be innocent. The ‘mother’ link is weak and I don’t feel it’s nearly enough to pull these stories together. They simply don’t belong in the same conversation. These cases should have been touched on separately.

On a side note I love seeing men here. This is just a messy post.