Letters to the Editor
Anne in NYC
Published Letters: 314 Editor's Choice: 37
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@ nancyh
[Read the article: Study: Most women "disordered eaters"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]“The more important point is that if you are of a normal weight and you beat yourself up for looking "fat" in your clothes, THAT IS SERIOUSLY FUCKED UP.”
I disagree. Not all clothing look as good on the hanger, or separately, as it will together and on. This morning I was all dressed and ready to go and at the last minute I decided the t-shirt I was wearing was a little short for the skirt I have on and it would be a more flattering outfit for me with a longer top. I did LOOK fat. So I changed tops. Problem solved. No crazy diet necessary even if that was my knee jerk reaction. I look great today – I’ve gotten a couple of compliments. I just don’t see how that’s an eating disorder. And if my clothing gets too tight? I make double sure to eat breakfast (my skipping this meal is my worst diet habit) and I eat lots of whole foods and stay away from candy (I love candy too). Moderation.
Honestly – I think pointing out what size you are is SERIOUDLY FUCKED UP because it says nothing about your health or the way you look. Is an 8 small? Is it healthy? I’ll bet there are plenty of 14s who rock it way better and lots of 4s who look like junkies. We all carry our weight and muscle differently – I really do think my spin in front of the mirror, and keeping an eye on how my favorite jeans fit and how my skin looks is the way to go.
On Thanksgiving I do binge. The next day I can hardly eat a thing. And when I eat something that really disagrees with me I will puke it up rather then letting it run through me. I’m not half starved. I haven’t stepped on a scale since my last doctor’s visit. But I feel fine. I look fine. It’s all ok. And yet according to ‘Self’ I’ve got some serious problems. Like I said before – this is why I don’t read beauty magazines.
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You never really know what happens behind closed doors…
[Read the article: Burning the keepsake wedding invitations ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]After reading her original Salon article I really, really hate her ex. What I really want to hear about is how his second wife ran off with the pool boy and half his cash. But I don’t think I could do a whole book.
A couple years ago I picked up Dominique Brownings’s divorce memoir and started out loving her – but toward the end of the book I was so sick of her yammering on about that retaining wall and her ex’s summer place I was ready to divorce her too (kidding Dom, but seriously that wall analogy got super old). The whole thing left a bad taste in my mouth because I realized that I didn’t really know what was going on – I was just hearing one women vent. Maybe her husband was a cool guy with a sob story of his own.
So while I love the short articles I think the books are a bit much unless you’re going through a divorce yourself.
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You can’t have a rational discussion
[Read the article: Taking back the debate over Israel]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Because this is entirely about religion. 60 years ago things were a little more complicated. But today it’s pretty hard to ignore all the crazy going on.
I lived in Texas for many years. And what I see is Evangelical America being convinced that the existence of Israel is the path to Armageddon and Salvation. I don’t care what Bush says on TV – this is what his supporters believe. In the eyes of these people all the Jews and Muslims are just the means to an end who will ALL burn in a fiery lake. Seriously. That’s what all those crazy Mega Churches and lots of more mainstream evangelical churches are up to. You can’t rationalize involvement with people who are that crazy. It’s impossible for me to understand how getting into bed with that and creating a religious state is the cool way to go.
And I haven’t even stated talking about Palestine and all the injustice going on there.
I’ve known lots of open minded Jews who have said what ‘J Street’ is saying and none of it has convinced me of anything but that I like Jews right here and that (maybe) ‘home’ is where the heart is.
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The Daddy Photo
[Read the article: So how about those Miley Cyrus photos?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I’ve no idea who this chick is we’re talking about is. Some Disney creation is the best I can come up with. This ‘scandal’ is the first time I’ve ever heard her name. So I saw the photos just as photos. And as I’m looking at them I’m thinking, ‘yeah, that’s an after sex shot’ and ‘her boyfriend looks super old.’ And then I found out that was her father.
There really isn’t enough mouth wash in the world.
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5 kids???
[Read the article: My husband of 12 years suddenly says he never loved me]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I don’t care if this husband BEGGED her to have 5 kids – in the end it’s the LW holding the bag. Isn’t it? I don’t see how she can do this without major, major help. She hasn’t really left herself many options.
I’ll bet you any amount of money this husband is having an affair. But the LW needs to know that for sure. Her layer and the judge need to know that for sure. I’d hire a private eye (a cop doing a little moonlighting is way cheaper then a divorce lawyer and much more useful at this stage of the game). It’s only when the LW has all the facts that she can hope to make an informed decision regarding what comes next.
But for the love of god no more kids! Ever. No matter what any man promises. A girl’s got to be able to stand on her own two feet and I don’t see how a single mother of 5 can do that unless she’s independently wealthy.