Letters to the Editor
Anne in NYC
Published Letters: 335 Editor's Choice: 37
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Not really a girl’s best friend after all
[Read the article: Too bad to keep, too good to hock]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Diamonds don’t hold their value at all. Every failed relationship I know of was shocked to discover it. Maybe you’ll get 1/10 of what you paid for it. It’s so little compared to the purchase price most guys don’t care enough to deal and most women end keeping it and using the stone for something else.
If you’re planning on getting married this is the best piece of advice ever: buy used or fake.
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With friends like that….
[Read the article: My husband constantly upstages me]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]“It is not out of the ordinary for my friends to let me know that my husband has let them know his struggles with me in our relationship.”
Guess what? A fried would tell your husband to stop. A friend would say, ‘No. You’re talking about my friend and all this personal information is making me uncomfortable and its making you look bad. Stop.’ A friend would not sulk back to you with gossip that’s just made to stress you out. This is painful to hear: but if your friends are listening to him and going back to you with hurtful gossip they are not your friends. These people are just acquaintances.
I think these two got in a bad pattern: she runs, he chases and the friends get rotated out in favor or new ones who don’t know this crazed history. Rinse. Wash. Repeat.
I think therapy is the only answer. Even if the marriage can’t be saved the LW really needs to examine herself more carefully to make sure she dosen’t slide right back into this comfortable pattern.
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Here's the skinny?
[Read the article: I now call to the witness stand ... your jeans]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Because this poor women who jumped out of a window was wearing skinny jeans? That was a really, really bad play on words. Yikes.
It’s an awful story. I’m sorry to see so many ignorant comments in response to it. But I don’t think joking about it is the cool either.
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Read critically
[Read the article: Study: Most women "disordered eaters"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This magazine has phrased normal eating habits in a scandalous way. It’s why I stay away from glossy women’s magazines.
I’m at a healthy weight and I’m almost always trying to loose a few pounds. I have an eating disorder, right? Not since my attempts to loose weight involve eating a healthy breakfast (a thing I skip too often) and keeping away from so much caffeine and not if my goal is still within healthy.
And yeah, about 40% of the time I do a few turns in front of the mirror and decide I look fat in some outfit: and it takes the wind out of my sails for a sec. Big deal. I just change and put on a little extra lip gloss and I get over myself. Again: not an eating disorder.
And I wonder if vegetarians and vegans fall under the 26 percent of people who cut out entire food groups.
This isn’t a crisis. This is just the beauty industry trying to frame us all as crazy so they can help us buy telling us what we need to buy.
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23 cents?
[Read the article: The fight for fair pay]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I’m going to admit it – I never really have understood this. I think it might be because I think of myself as messing up the curve.
If I wanted to I could be making more money. If I decided I wanted a corporate, Wall Street job I could easily increase my salary by half. But I don’t want the hours, I don’t want to have to keep the wardrobe up (women can’t get away with 2 suits and a few nice shirts) and I don’t want the pressure of $20 lunches and $15 after work cocktails. After keeping up with all my co-workers I doubt I’d be taking much extra home. Plus the people can be awful douches.
I like working with artists and going home at 5:30. And working for a small company has made me really know my business since my hands are in every aspect of the running of things. I’m extremely employable and you can’t say the same regarding my corporate counter-part who is too specialized. And it would be so easy for me to take a few years off with a kid and then go back to work slowly by picking up an increasing number of small business clients – I’ve been planning it this way for years!
So I’ve rejected my 23 cents. And I do realize I’m lucky to have had the choice. But I wonder how many other women have done the same thing when I see this figure being tossed around.