Letters to the Editor
Anne in NYC
Published Letters: 342 Editor's Choice: 38
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What’s the LW got to do with it?
[Read the article: My boyfriend's climbing partner let him fall]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]“When I read the blurb on this letter, I wondered WTF is this woman interfering in her BF's relationship with a friend ... it's a question begging an answer ...”
I thought the exact same thing. It seems like the girlfriend dosen’t have a dog in this fight – if there even is a fight. This could just be some sort of ‘normal’ cold shoulder routine between two old friends having a hard time with their mutual guilt (and if that’s the case Joe totally ‘won’ with that invoice – yikes!).
My advice to the LW is to let it all go because it’s not about her. It’s up to her boyfriend to decide who is a friend and if the LW interferes with that she’s turning herself into the bad guy/nag in this situation. Being told how to feel and act and who you should and shouldn’t trust is huge even for old married couples. The LW should tread very gently.
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It’s Not About Diet
[Read the article: My vegan friend insists I justify myself]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The vegan thing is a red herring and any conversation about it is totally missing the point. This could just as easily be about religion or politics or abortion or any number of things.
This is about the LW being comfortable, relaxed and safe around his friends. Not that our friends shouldn’t challenge our assumptions but they shouldn’t be planning carefully constructed attacks on us either. This is supposed to be a happy visit, a vacation even, but the LW is dreading aspects of it.
The friend should know that her need to ‘understand’ is starting to push the LW away. If she really cares about the LW dropping the subject is a small thing.
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Better then Nothing
[Read the article: "Idol" succeeds as a fundraiser but fails as entertainment]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]We’re talking about 30 Million for a good cause.
Maybe it wasn’t as tasteful, educational and successful as we would have all liked it to be: but it was something. Crapping all over a silly TV show because they didn’t give in the ‘right’ way sounds insane.
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not so strange or gross
[Read the article: Modern-day wet nursing]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I don’t have children yet – I’m currently deciding how a baby/child might fit into my life along with another married, female friend. We’re talking about co-opting care out so we could each work part time and parent both kids part time and how that might work and how much the dad’s would need to pitch in on weekdays, etc. Just in the very planning/day dreaming stage at the moment and we’re talking about all sorts of issues that might come up.
We’ve spoken about nursing for each other too. We’re both healthy and we’re the same age with similar diets and histories and we think it sounds better then fussing around with a breast pump at the moment. Anyway – I still think it’s worth experimenting with when the time comes.
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Re: Sharing the load...
[Read the article: Modern-day wet nursing]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]That’s exactly what I’m talking about. But 5 babies at once! I don’t speak from any sort of experience but that sounds like a lot of work. Those Greek ladies have my admiration.
I think the most I could handle is two babies and a part time job. Of course we’d still need to pump for the guys when it’s their time to ‘parent’ without any ladies around but for the bulk of time we wouldn’t have to mess with it.
Of course – I realize that my little imp (or hers) may not like this plan and it all gets scrapped anyway but it’s interesting to think/talk about. If our math is good we’ll both be pulling in more working part time and co-opting out child care with each other then we would keeping our full time jobs and paying for child care.
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Team Baldwin
[Read the article: When good actors do bad things]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This whole thing reminds me of about 100 incidents with my dad when I was a young teenager. I’m not saying it’s right or nice to loose it with a child but I do think this kind of fighting, between (pre)teens and parents, is as common as dirt. It hardly deserves the front page treatment it’s been getting.
Do I feel sorry for Alec? A little bit, yeah. He’s got a mentally ill ex-wife who’s actively trying to keep him away from his daughter and when he blows up over it (as he seems prone to doing) she leaks the call and it all becomes front pages news.
Of course it’s Ireland Baldwin who has my real sympathy. It seems like both her parents have failed her on this one.
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This author deserved to be detained
[Read the article: At her majesty's pleasure]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]What he did was scary and it warranted an investigation. It’s easy to look back at the situation and say ‘he was just tipsy’ or ‘the flight staff over-reacted’ or ‘if they’d have only know about his medical condition’ but at the time I’m sure Kurth had an entire cabin full of people scared shitless that he was going to rip open a hatch over the Atlantic or something.
Screaming and yelling obscenities and walking around when he should be in his seat with no explanations? No one in good conscience could let this person back on a plane, or even loose on the streets of London, before he’d been looked into. It sounds like the air staff and the police on the ground did just what they should have done.
The author’s treatment while he was detained was horrendous: not even actual terrorists deserve that. For me that's the story - his treatment in prison. Had his time in prison been a safe, decent experience the whole story would have, for me, been a non-issue.