Letters to the Editor
Anne in NYC
Published Letters: 342 Editor's Choice: 38
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Re: I get this about cats
[Read the article: Feminist blog goes to the dogs]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Hey Allie - I got my Siamese kitten from a rescues organization. Take a look on line and see if there isn’t a Siamese rescue group in your area. I’ve found that any breed I’ve ever been interested in (cat or dog) has a rescue league you can work with to find the right animal for you.
Mine’s only half (we think). Pregnant Mom found her way to the pound and then to the home of a Siamese rescue volunteer where she had her kittens. I found an ad on Craig’s List for the kittens and the mama. I’ll have to admit – mom was a little cross-eyed and looked over breed - but the kittens came out lovely and with clear, almond eyes: two dark points, one calico and a Havana Brown. I was more concerned with moxy – for me that’s the hallmark of the breed - the brown kitten had it so I took her. But if I’d have wanted a dark point with blue eyes I could have had one – that exotic looking calico was tempting too. And if one day I don’t want my cat (unlikely) the rescue organization I adopted her from will take her back just like a reputable breeder would. Just the other day I got it in my head that my next cat was going to be a Russian Blue mix and sure enough there are plenty of blue kittens out there to be adopted too.
I used to be a PETA member but they pretty much drove me out. It’s kind of cute that people seem to think the conservative right is responsible for crazed PETA posts – but I’ve got to tell you the more fanatic members really do equate animal suffering with slavery. And the vast majority of those people strongly identify themselves as feminists as well as animal rights activists – they see the two issues as linked.
Really – this blogger was a knuckle head to go on and on about her dog. It makes her seem like she’s got no idea what she’s doing. She should have known better. Even Broadsheet should have known this was going to generate lots of opinions and squabbles.
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Where do you ‘nothing but jeans’ people work?
[Read the article: Conversations: Tim Gunn]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It turns out that a flattering skirt, pretty sandals (not dusty old beach shoes) and a fitted t-shirt really isn’t any harder to pull together then the jeans and flip-flops look first thing in the morning – pair that outfit with a jacket and it’s perfect for the office - pair it with a couple of fun accessories and you’re practically in a cocktail attire. And that’s the basis of all these make-over shows. It just takes a little more pre-planning for it to all come together. To me that little bit of extra work pays for itself with the good first impressions I create. And when you work in a client based industry (as I do) it’s all first impressions and last minute engagements. I can’t imagine sitting at a client lunch wearing mom jeans and garden shoes – people would think I’d cracked.
I once read that Einstein owned several changes of the same suits so he wouldn’t have to waste the energy thinking about what to wear. I hear a lot of people here getting to that point. But I have to wonder – is choosing a few mix and match pieces to hang in your closet really going to burn though that many brain cells? I can see not being into this sort of show – but the defense of sloppy dressing seems crazed.
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Boundaries
[Read the article: My best friend is now my mom's best friend]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]My friend’s don’t hang with my mom. They’re friendly and they all like each other but I’m the link. Because my mom isn’t my friend – she’s my mom. They are totally different relationships. The things that I need from my mom and the things that I need from my friends are very different. I really don’t like the idea of those two worlds meeting and taking off together without me. What next? Are mom and the BF going to give the LW’s ex-boyfriend a call and ask him over for coffee? It feels to me as if the LW is loosing both her BF and her mom and both of them are just blowing off that very real concern.
I’d let both mom and the BF know that I’m uncomfortable with it every time I got that feeling that I was being treated like an outsider. But past that there really is nothing to do and I’d expect the relationship with the BF fizzles over it. It’s just one of those things that sucks.
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I was once ‘the rebound girlfriend’
[Read the article: We broke up after four years -- but he moved on so fast!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]We were in our early 20’s. He had just broken up with girlfriend of the past several years. I was his best friend’s ex. I know his old girlfriend thought we wouldn’t last because she was pretty obvious about it. I almost hate to say it because it’s so mean – but she was really pathetic about being his ‘friend.’ Every time she called, wanted to go out, needed to talk or whatever it came across as very needy and very sad.
And she was wrong about us not lasting. I married him and almost 15 years later we’re still the happy couple. It was just about 5 years ago that she finally seemed to give up on talking about old times and sending him slightly inappropriate emails (that of course he always shared with me).
LW – don’t be that girl. You hold your head up and don’t waste time looking back.