Letters to the Editor
Anne in NYC
Published Letters: 314 Editor's Choice: 37
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Re: Weak Attempt at Humor
[Read the article: Harry Potter and the prediction pool]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]If I had to guess I’d say there was a lot of drinking going on while this was being written.
No way Harry can die and they still sell a bunch of toys and open a theme park. I think Ron and Hermione are safe for the same reason.
I think it’s going to be Snape who sacrifices himself for Harry as that will add a nice twist. But I think poor little Ginny and maybe one (or both) of the Weasley parents are doomed as that seems to be the way things go for poor Harry.
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If mom’s drug use isn’t illegal…
[Read the article: Mom's a pothead]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Then I’m really at a loss as to why her son is still so bent out of shape. He sounds like a he’s on the road to becoming a nasty, judgmental sort of person who can’t keep his own personal beliefs and the rights of others separated. I’m surprised the LW is so supportive of him when it seems to me that he’s in sore need of an education in empathy and understanding.
Anyway – this all seems to be normal teenage stuff (bucking authority and threatening to move out). The LW should know that this drama, or some version of it, is par for the course. It’s not the end of the world and I doubt any interference from the LW would be at all useful. Unless there are truly instances of abuse and/or neglect the LW needs to step away from her friend’s family private business.
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Famous Last Words
[Read the article: A 19-year-old wants my husband]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]“i know when he's trying to manupulate me, because he's done it before...this is not one of those times”
Girls generally don’t text and call men who ignore them. Your husband is either encouraging her on in some way or she’s stalking him. In either case I don’t see how reaching out to her is going to be anything but trouble.
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Heaven help me. I agree with Ben Dover.
[Read the article: My wife was having an emotional affair for years behind my back]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This LW is acting like a very poor lawyer. With so much at stake (his kid, his firm, his home, his marriage and his future earnings) he needs to be ready for anything before opening this box of worms. In addition to all the legal maneuvers Ben suggests I’d also hire a P.I. and find out exactly what’s going on before doing anything else. Right now the LW is only guessing at what’s going on and that’s not good enough – he needs to know exactly what he’s dealing with.
But unlike Ben I see this plan as more as more of an insurance policy and a final line in the sand. Confronted with her affair and all the years of lies the wife might be inclined to admit she’s got a problem that’s harming her family. I don’t think it’s too late for a happy outcome. But if it all goes to hell the LW is ready for it.
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Ben
[Read the article: My wife was having an emotional affair for years behind my back]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]“This guy has allowed himself to be whipped for more than a decade.”
Yes he has. And that also makes me think that, for whatever screwed up reason, this LW is getting something out of it. His limits and your limits (or mine) are two different things. If he likes to play with fire we can’t stop him.
My main concern is that his wife screws him in court and moves out with the kid to John’s. That would be tragic and completely unfair and I can totally see it happening. As long as the LW protects himself from that whatever else floats his boat is fine with me if it’s cool with him.
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Re: responsibility
[Read the article: Carding on the catwalk?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]If we were talking about adults you might have a point – but we’re talking about girls UNDER the age of 16. Asking a child to be responsible for her own health in an industry that prizes thinness above all else seems to be asking too much.
We don’t send children down to coal mines anymore because of the harm it can do to their developing bodies. We shouldn’t send children to fashion shows for the same reason.
Plus I think that adults sexualizing a girl in her early teens is just gross. I’m not sure why everyone doesn’t find it icky.
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I enjoyed the original article
[Read the article: Dear Readers]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It surprised me that so many people were offended by an academic look at gender in politics. And all the talk of having to dumb down the conversation in order to keep Fox New on the defense seems crazed.
But what I really like is the author’s ‘rebuttal’ article. Too many times an author with an unpopular article on Salon will let the letters from readers get into the hundreds but will still remain silent and I find that very annoying. I’ve much more interest in a sort of conversation then I am at the news media talking at me.
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Weddings are the new Family Reunions
[Read the article: Can I have my wedding money now?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]When I got married the thing I had to come to terms with quickly was this wasn’t my big day. This was the day when two families, who live all over the world, got together for a big party. It was as much about my parents, grandparents, long lost cousins and new in-laws (who all shelled out considerably money and vacation time to enjoy the day) as it was about me. And my dad was overjoyed to have the whole family in the same room together – it was for this reason that he saved up that money for ‘my’ wedding.
Frankly I’d have rather have had the money too. I’m not much into wearing the big white dress and all the odd traditions that go along with it – I’d have much preferred a civil ceremony and a nice, long honeymoon. But those private concerns are things that the whole family can’t enjoy and it’s not a gift my dad ever offered.
Asking for the money for personal reasons sounds tacky and a little selfish when (in my experience) it’s really about the family keeping close.