Letters to the Editor
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Published Letters: 2 Editor's Choice: 2
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Thank You
[Read the article: My sister is a famous designer -- and I'm not!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Thank you for reminding me to be an artist.
Thank you for reminding me not to fear those voices that make themselves at home inside our heads.
Thank you for giving me the courage to face another week pregnant with impossibilities.
Thank you for reminding me that love lacks reason, most especially self-love.
And now, I too, must get back to work.
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Dichotomy
[Read the article: Virginity: The new feminism?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]One thing that has always bothered me in these debates is this forced dichotomy - either you casually hook-up all the time or you are abstinent. There are pitfalls and advantages to both, but why do we have to pretend like these are the only options? What about sex within the context of a relationship? What about non-casual sex before marriage?
What specifically bothers me about both of these positions is what I perceive as a lack of respect for sexuality. Sex is a powerful thing, and by hooking up I fear that some of my peers lose sight of that power and begin to underestimate the strong feelings that can be generated from sex. On the other hand, promoting sex only with one's husband as the be-all-and-end-all of sexuality also degrades sexuality by forgetting that it's something that matures with time and practice, and that there can be serious sexual compatibility issues. By putting on such a high pedestal, perhaps these staunch virgins forget that sex can be fun and exciting and remind you that you are alive. Moderation between letting lust rule or constantly dampening it - can we consider this as an option too?