why for the last few pages of letters, people keep saying that people are siding with the wife.

Having read the letters this morning, I see a lot of people cheesed off (and reasonably so) by the hypocrisy of his "Well, sure *I* had two affairs, but it's *her* affairs that are the real problem" attitude.

But mostly, people are saying "divorce her."

I think that the responses to the "I'm cheating on my husband, but I don't feel bad about it" woman a few months ago indicates that the commneters here can be plenty nasty toward cheating wives.

Though, of course, it looks a little silly when you string them all together, I was impressed at the number of different ways she does "wake up in terror." It's a trope of the show, but it never becomes a cliche.

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that the prevailing attitude on this board is that Stephanie has a kneejerk reaction of hating everything.

It seems obvious to me that everyone here has a kneejerk reaction of disagreeing with her.

After all, have you see the previews for "Mamma Mia?" I certainly have and I find it very easy to believe that it takes a rather cloying approach toward being entertaining, the plot is thin and they overuse shots of sunlight on the water.

Is it really so hard to believe that this movie isn't that good?

Not for me.

Of course the people on the spaceship didn't mind the idea of hard work. They didn't know what hard work was, and indeed the novelty of walking was pretty fun.

Did it suck later? Probably.

Did lots of people wish they had stayed in space? No doubt.

But we don't see those parts. That doesn't mean they wouldn't have happened, though.

But yeah, what we do see, people who have been told they are going home relishing the first few minutes stepping on to earth, was more realistic than a lot of other things about the movie.

I saw Patrick Stewart play "Othello" with an otherwise all-black cast.

He was awesome. It was awesome.

As far as I can tell, this happens to some degree in just about any marriage where there is long, unplanned non-medically necessitated employment and the unemployed person sits around at home.

Everyone is pretty quick to judge Marisa's pre-marriage assumptions, but I really doubt that she was particularly subtle on the "I want to stay home with any kids we have for a little while" point and Paul DID marry a freelance writer.

If he wanted to be able to sit on his ass at home and not work for eight months (because you can't tell me that there were no jobs, at all in New York City that he could have taken in that period,) then he probably shouldn't have married a freelance writer.

And I think Joan Walsh defends young women because you people are so brutal to them.

I really can't imagine any other place where the "How DARE she object to having to pay all his bills while he sits around and plays Xbox all day for almost a year! What a materialistic bitch! She should be THRILLED that when they have a fight, he goes off and spends her money on getting tipsy!" argument is even seriously made.

because the husband couldn't man up and get a job.

It's hilarious that you people are so quick to judge her for wanting to be supported while she wrote a book or raised their kid while she let him sit on his ass all day for months doing nothing.

Do you guys really think there were no jobs in New York he could have taken during that time? Really?

No, it's all right to dump your spouse because he doesn't even TRY to make ANY money and it is wrong to be judgmental of the woman for wanting to be supported rather than the man for actually being supported.

If anyone here honestly believes that the husband had no way of getting a job in New York City for the entire nine months he was unemployed, speak up.

If you don't believe that, I have no idea why you're condemning the wife.

You all seem to think she's so awful for wanting to write a book and raise a kid while being perfectly OK with him sitting on his ass for all that time.

They were just fine when he had a job, even one that didn't pay much. He probably could have walked outside his building and found a restaurant job within two blocks of his place, yet he let her support him for all that time.

And you blame her for being pissed?

But it does mean that if you "lose your job" and sit on your ass for eight months until your wife does start working full time, and she thinks about dumping you, then doesn't and writes an essay about it, tons of people will take your side.

He better go someplace warm, because if he keeps expecting his wife to support him, he's going to be homeless.

That "Gangsta" Rap has a long and suprisingly noble history?

Songs with the basic theme "I might as well rebel against society and commit crimes, because I will be punished no matter what I do because of who I am" date back to before the civil war.

It's not an attitude I would want anyone I know and love to espouse either, but it comes from a long history of oppression and it seems like a legitimate reaction to what some of the writers have been through.

It seems like the logical question when people demand other people make positive change, especially people who have grown up in awful circumstances.

Also, some rap songs do have an uplifting message