Letters to the Editor
NCgirl
Published Letters: 9 Editor's Choice: 1
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Rising C-sections
[Read the article: Why is the share of cesarean deliveries rising?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]C-sections, while occasionally necessary, are totally getting out of hand. My baby was breech and while some midwifes will consider delivering a breech baby naturally, depending on the baby's position, my doctor was adamently against the idea. He really wouldn't even consider trying it and holding the c-section in as an emergency measure.
Doctors will tell you that it is major surgery, but they don't go into the details of how long it takes to recover physically or the fact that you will not be able to hold your baby for several hours after he/she is born. I did well with my surgery, but I still had pain for at least three weeks after the surgery from such simple things as laughing or coughing. You need your stomach muscles for a lot of activities. And I have read many horror stories of women who's anesthesia didn't work and they could feel the surgery.
Most women aren't well-informed enough or brave enough - especially first-time moms - to try and stand up to their doctors and demand that a c-section be a last resort. Doctors also don't tell you that you can really only have two, maybe three, c-sections, so if you have plans of a large family a c-section limits that chance. Babies aren't something that can be scheduled and those women who are trying to do schedule birth for convenience are in for a rude awakening as parents.
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Condi in Greeensboro
[Read the article: A little love for Condi]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]As a resident of Greensboro, I am APPALLED at what the News & Record reporter said. And I can tell you that the majority of the city does not agree with her if you go by the voting during the last election. Guilford County (where Greensboro is located) was one of only a handful of NC counties that went for Kerry, the counties around Raleigh and Charlotte also did. So while that doesn't paint a very good picture of my beloved home state, it does it at least show that the city I live in has a bit more sense than this one reporter - or so I like to think.
And one more thing - how unprofessional! Like this lady was meeting the Beatles or something. Good grief, Condi is a lame, govt yes-woman, not Brad Pitt!
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Europe
[Read the article: "Sopranos" wrap-up: Hide-and-seek]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I have just read through all the posts and jTH is the only one to bring up a question that I wondered after seeing the latest episode. Carmela's trip to Europe seemed to stir a lot of things up for her and Sunday she was looking at pictures from the trip. Is this a coincidence or a sign of the future? Maybe Tony doesn't make it for one reason or the other, but would Carm (Could she??) leave and try to start over?
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My name
[Read the article: Should I take my husband's name?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]While I do think a bit part of feminism is giving women a choice in how they want to do things, I am still constantly so surprised by women who never even broach the question of changing their name and just assume they will take their husbands. So I am glad that the writer is at least questioning that assumption.
What I am puzzled by, however, is her statement here:
I also thought it was pretty un-feminist for a woman to keep her last name, then have children and be the only member of the family with it.
I kept my last name. My husband and I have a son. He has my husband's last name. I don't think that having a different name than the other people in my house makes me unfeminist. If anything, I hope that it will show my son as he grows up that I am my own person and that all women are individuals. I suppose some people may question if I am his mom or step mom or what, since we don't share the same last name. But for me, it really isn't about what other people think. I know he is mine, he grew in my body. And even if he hadn't come from my person, if he were adopted or whatever, he is my son and no name will ever change that or have any impact on my relationship with him. I object to one response from Haaaley that said the mother's last name would have reprecussions for her children. Please, this is the 21st century, I think we are beyond that kind of pettiness, or at least I pray we are.
Ultimately, you have to do what you feel comfortable with. My name was who I had been for almost 30 years. I had started a career with that name. It was my identity. My husband feel in love with me for who I was, for that person, and he had no interest in changing that, anymore than I did. So I kept my name. Sometimes I get called by his last name and sometimes he gets called by mine. But in the end, these names are just words and letters and our family is much more than that.
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tires or credit card
[Read the article: What will YOU do with your fiscal stimulus check?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]i will either buy new tires for my car and put the remainder toward cc debt, or put it all toward cc debt. not that it will come close to paying off anything.
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Great article
[Read the article: Once upon a time, Dad went to war]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It saddens me to read all the negative, hate-filled letters that have been posted about this great article. I think they are missing the point. This war and all wars are not "good" things, but this article is how you handle the day in and day out of explaining to a small child why their mom or dad isn't there.
I applaud Ms. Buckholtz. She handled it with grace and strength. I hope all children of deployed parents are so lucky. I wish her and her family peace and safety and a quick reunion.