I just want to say that although it's supposedly wrong for a former Pres to bag on the current administration or Pres, I am glad Carter has been speaking his mind. I hope he never shuts up. Also, I hope that this time he doesn't apologize. If anyone has earned the right to let it rip...

Hahahaaa, Quiet Type, this was great: "Married Eye for the Single Guy"

From the female perspective: Women need to be heard, they want you to tell them you understand. Even if nothing deep is going on, look a person in the eye and really be present with them. Not in a needy way, just in a, " Hey, I get you." way. Most women I know would agree that if a guy focuses beyond himself, that is attractive. Be real and confident to be yourself, without exposing every detail so fast. Take a new chick friend to do some things that are funny, like the bowling Cary mentioned. (I think that's pretty funny).

I always met people while hanging with friends, especially when least expected. That terrifying moment where your heart kind of drops or skips and you actually have to look away because all of a sudden you are transparent in your attraction.

What the f*** do I know? I haven't dated in years and I was pretty lousy at it. I had my heart broken, I broke some hearts, it wasn't always fun now that you mention it. For what it's worth, Cary may be onto something here... you might be stuck in a rut and not even know it. Knocking it loose may open new opportunities for you.

Good luck mixing it up with the animals out there.

One of my best friends is feeling similarly. In her case, she is and always has been bisexual but fell in love with a man who then became her husband. There is something about domesticity and raising children that makes some people feel claustrophobic and overwhelmed. I wonder how much of your yearning has to do with a need for escape. We all need some escape in our lives! Escape from burning sneakers perhaps!

There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do though. Your query is intriguing and I am not sure why there is anger in some posts. It never ceases to amaze, what gets people all riled up! I can say I've been attracted to women before. Now that I think about it, there have been women attracted to me who solicited attention of the affectionate sort, especially since I've been married. It's just the same kind of seductive energy present with a man, because it is taboo. That is why I'll have to join the ranks of "gender isn't the issue here". I suppose if you are married with kids, most of society will shun the idea of you satisfying your desires. I don't judge you, but I bet you are distracted. That must suck.

It wouldn't feel quite right with a man, and it wouldn't feel quite right with a woman... unless the husband was somehow involved. Then maybe too many energies in one room, you know? Maybe you need to readjust your agreement and see how that works for both of you for a while. Surprisingly, my own thoughts about marriage and relationships have been shifting a bit from all this banter. Still, it's not worth all the drama and then, of course, someone gets hurt. You think you know what it will be like, but really you don't.

P.S. Maybe I chose "Six" as a screen name because I want to make out with Patricia Helfer from Battlestar.

..."maelstrom of trashiness" describes Britney and her crew to a tee. They bring entertainment down so low with all the overdone strip tease dancing. Despite what has been said about your opinion, I think your writing here is great. Maybe now I will get a "maelstrom of anger" directed my way.

I don't know how some people are able to do it! To know personally and have details about every single person in each state. To be able to say with conviction, that everyone in the Midwest is a certain way and everyone on the Coasts is a certain way. Very interesting.

Wow, whoever is posting about an entire landmass like that, you really get around!

LW, if money is your issue in CA, you aren't alone. Homes begin around a mill in great school districts and communities. You know that it's all relative though. Weigh what matters most to you, know where you can compromise and where you absolutely cannot, and put the feelers out. You get depressed without light, then avoid places like Seattle. You hate 6 lanes of cars and traffic jams, avoid cities in California. You want your kids to get a great public school education, then most parts of rural Southeast are probably not your thing.

Someone will take issue to demographic discussion because they feel their personal choices are being bashed, but the facts are there and if you can be resourceful. Your process does not have to be exclusively intellectual or untuitive. Search and you will find.

AKA, you are so funny. "Dislexia" post. Oh, you always make me laugh. I just misspelled Galactica in my last post, probably it will go unnoticed since people seem to miss this sci-fi show.

From Battlestar Gallactica. Dig it. She would eat Jeff for her afternoon snack.

Is onto something!