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Friday, April 24, 2009 12:25 PM

littleblue

No one has equated "chore doing" with "parenting."

Actually, it seems may comments have done just that. Take a closer look.

I am not going back and rereading the posts but I think it is safe to say most of the people are talking about SAHM with school age kids and not preschool kids like the mom that is the subject of this piece. In these cases what is the SAHM exactly what is the mom/dad doing at home parenting wise that is any different than what they could be doing at work? The only answer that I can see is chores which do not come even close to adding up to the time the kids are at school. It is just not possible for a stay at home parent of school age kids not to have mostly leisure time if they are only a homemaker. Now if they have a side business or volunteer than that starts to be a different story and maybe it becomes reasonable to allow a child to count that as seeing their parent doing a job but that does not seem to be the case in the original story.

Friday, April 24, 2009 11:38 AM

Homemaking does not take that much time

(1) Homemaking is a piece of cake. (If you believe this, then you haven't done it--or haven't done it well.)

We do not live in the 1920's anymore homemaking is easy today. We have grocery stores, freezers and refrigeration that take care of the need to go to the market each day. Once a week is more than enough. We have vacuum cleaners, swifter's and other cleaning products that make cleaning more efficient and do the job better. To do a good enough job in a 3000 sq foot house really should only take a couple of hours, double the time for pristine condition and you do not need to do this every day either to have an extremely clean house. We have dishwashers that cut the time to do dishes to almost nothing. We have washing machines, dryers, steamers and wrinkle free material that cut laundry time to almost nothing.

So what am I doing wrong where it takes me 5 or 6 hours a week to do this? The only way it takes longer is if I am purposely inefficient. Never mind the amount of time I can cut out outsourcing these tasks. I used to have my laundry done before I got a washing machine which cost about 50 percent more than doing it myself but saved me 3 hours. This cost a whopping 10 to 15 dollars extra a week. I could do my grocery/household shopping in about 20 minutes and have it delivered again for a small price premium and sometimes savings (I know this is not an option for everyone but with Amazon it is getting close). I can hire a cleaning service to come once or twice a month for less than 50 dollars that would cut my total monthly cleaning time to probably a quarter.

Friday, April 24, 2009 08:36 AM

Good for the school

First things first take your kids to work day is one of the dumber ideas of the last few decades. Kids bored out of their minds and by no fault of their own killing the productivity of everyone else in the office.

Second, its about time someone spoke the truth about housewives/husbands. Once the kids are in school your "job" is pretty easy and most of the required tasks for the job can be done in less than 15 -20 hours a week.

Thursday, April 23, 2009 10:36 AM

Get a grip

This is a cleaver enough game that took advantage of a feature of the iphone in cleaver way to make a joke/stress reliever. No one that buys this game is going to go out and kill a baby because of this game. This is for anyone that has ever had to sit on a plane or movie with a crying child and wished the child would just puff go away so they could sleep or enjoy a few hours to themselves.

Seriously can we get over caring about victim families already. Victims and victim families have done more harm to the Constitution and or are criminal system than Bush did. Its a tragedy what happened to them but that is it, they do not get some special wisdom at that moment.

Wednesday, April 22, 2009 12:24 PM

KR

Where is there any evidence that male or even female sexual preference is anywhere close to a bell curve?

Wednesday, April 22, 2009 12:14 PM

And please stop with Europe

The reason Europe offers these benefits is because they need people to reproduce as almost every country in Europe has either Replacement or below replacement levels of reproduction. The US has no such problems. And until we do, the paid time off is not worth the cost when you can be replaced.

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