Is that it kind of goes there:

http://video.aol.com/video-detail/saturday-night-live-saturday-night-live-patio-lovers/1821101

I spent the past weekend with my friends in Miami, whose marriage, thanks to Prop 2, is not recognized by the state. They can't adopt, they are not entitled to each other's pensions should one of them die. (M. is a firefighter.) It's shitty. But get over it, Florida and the rest of America, because a change is going to come.

At one point during the weekend J. observed, "I've had way more shit thrown at me in life for being a woman than for being gay."

That's the thing that feels so disappointing and mean in a lot of this. That expressing a pretty non vitriolic point of view about gay marriage gets Prejean branded a dumb bitch and worse. That there can be outrage over her stance on gay marriage but wow, the misogyny lobbed back gets a big wide berth.

A few months after the events in this story, my family and I moved to a co-op in the uppermost neighborhood of Manhattan, Inwood. Because it's a lower income area, we were fortunate to get a decent mortgage rate. My husband lost his job the same week we closed.

The intervening years have often been very sad and very scary, for a variety of reasons, and I'm like an awful lot of Americans in that regard.

But I love my home and my neighborhood, in a place in the city that's bustling and diverse and right by a big park.

I grew up in Jersey City. I lived through 9/11. This part of the world, for all its frequent frustration and BS, is my home. A lot of the time it's hard to be here. And sometimes it's amazing.

I think we're all looking for a place in the world we feel we belong, and that place is different for everyone. The last few years have been an object lesson in the lengths to which we as a culture will go to get there.

a) the title of the Broadsheet post comes from Maureen Dowd's 2005 book of the same name, which itself borrows from James Thurber's classic, hilarious Is Sex Necessary? (the answer is meant to be obvious)

b) my husband and I are separated, which makes neither one of us any less loving or devoted parents.

I was in the crowd on the mall when he took the oath, and when I heard the flub turned to my friends, "FOX News is probably saying it doesn't count RIGHT NOW."

She irks me too (http://www.salon.com/mwt/feature/2006/10/14/rachael_ray/index.html) and I love Bittman, but Rays's been advocating washing and prepping your produce as soon as you come home for years. And while she's a great fan of shortcuts, unlike Sandra Lee, her recipes rely heavily on fresh ingredients and skew to healthier habits.

Yes, her face is a box of crackers. And though the name of her charity -- Yum-O -- makes me cringe, it give her props for creating an organization to empower kids and their parents to make smarter eating choices, and to eat together.

My book editor was one of the ones laid off on Black Wednesday. I had actually been in her office for a meeting while the heads were starting to roll -- she got word right after I left.

In the days and weeks before, I'd heard about giant advances going to books up at auction at houses all over the city, and had a lot of conversations with industry friends about how this stuff could possibly be sustainable.

I'm extremely lucky; my book is finished and at the printer. But I really wonder what will happen to all the authors earlier along in the process. And all of us with ties to the publishing industry are now holding our breaths and wondering where it goes from here.

Technology has pushed us to a place where the idea of getting a movie or a song or a book and paying for it is hard for a lot of folks. I don't know how to save publishing, but I do know business as we know it has to evolve.

Brian Leher did a great show yesterday asking whether people would take modest pay cuts to assure that their companies didn't have to have layoffs (or decrease the number needed). Most of the people who called in were in favor of it.

Pay cuts and wage freezes, combined with much more equanimity regarding advances, won't be the only things that save publishing. But it's a good start.

He was our very first sexiest man:

http://www.salon.com/ent/feature/2006/11/17/sexiest_man/index1.html

Jon Hamm was our sexiest man last year!

http://www.salon.com/ent/feature/2007/11/15/sexiest_man/index.html

Andrew, that was beautiful. Your dad was an inspiration to so many of us. And so are you.

Fiona, et al: I am down with anything as long as it's good. I saw "Mama Mia!" twice this summer. (Pierce Brosnan singing: the single greatest act of bravery I've witnessed in years) and was a SATC fan from back in the day.

(And I know the original "Women." It's just the gimmick of it doesn't make sense on the contemporary streets of Manhattan.)

Anyway, yay women. Boo, The Women.