Letters to the Editor
MereMortal
Published Letters: 151 Editor's Choice: 19
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oh joan...
[Read the article: Why Jeremiah Wright is so wrong]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]one could parse out endlessly how horrified you are by Mr Wright and his 'damning' of America, but the simple fact that is in plain view is that America is a rogue mass-murdering nation that likes to protray itself as a beacon of salvation and unimpeachable integrity. This is of course uttterly absurd.
America has a long culture of nefarious and nasty regime change around the world, about 100 years ago, US Marines were waterboarding Phillipine insurgents (who, surprise surprise did not want to be occupied), the attack on vietnam was an odious exercise in mass murder, one of its biggest proponents in public life is the unrepentant and grim nutcase called McCain.
I don't want to add too much, but get over your outrage at Wright's correct denunciation of America. When longer histories are written, the truest patriots are the ones that speak the truth, not the ninnies who nurse egotistical wounds, or more appropriately in your case, defenders of the unspeakable status quo.
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or...he could just be telling the truth
[Read the article: My husband of 12 years suddenly says he never loved me]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Many relationships are not what they seem.
It is possible for someone to be far more into you than you are into them. In the early days you might think that you'd start to feel the same way back, but you don't. You've probably had sex with this person many times and feel that it would be callous to break it off whilst you are still thinking it through and in an ambiguous position. There is never a nice time to break off a relationship. This woman might be perfectly decent so he never has a legitimate reason to ditch her.
One thing leads to another and you get child 1, you can't bail out now and be a deadbeat father, child 2....child 5 all the more reason, only he can't bear it anymore. After years and years of telling himself "I will grow to love her" he finds that he cannot will his feelings into being. He drops his bombshell.
He sounds like he has decided to tell the truth, in my view, it's her who is living with the self-deceit of believing that this man has always loved her. Imagine the millions of cues that she lied to herself about over a 5 child marriage, transforming them into someting that they were not.
Many couples live like this.
in fact if you think to your own life and the people you know, and you're really really honest about it, how many couples do you know, whom you genuinely feel delighted are a couple 'made for each other' and how many more seem perfectly decent but rivven with problems and issues, some very serious.
There is a massive amount of propaganda about relationships, families and marriages enforced by society to keep you from really being open and honest about what you want from this life, to keep you ruthlessly in line, it's dumb, but there it is, I mean George W Bush is president so we know that the world is fairly random and not easily given to or readily designed to fulfilling our deepest yearnings.
The moral of the story. The truth is precious, act from true feeling, otherwise you leave a trail of ashes behind you, the only real deceit is self-deceit.