if she had worked hard, been honest about her choices, been smart and STILL had to suffer as you say, by not getting alimony or child support.

But you know as well as I do, most women in this situation are young and/or deliberately choose men not for how honest or trustworthy they are but for how hot or charming they are.

As for salary, women earn 98 cents on the dollar compared to men when it is the same job. Again, if women choose low paying work, are random men in the street to blame or at the women themselves to blame for their bad job choices?

I worked my ass off, and because of my being a bit too trusting, naive, and listening to people who I had no idea were as dishonest or dunned as they were, I lost it all and some more.

Had I been a layabout slacker playing video games all day for two decades, I would have been batter off.

I do take some blame. I can see now the layabout had the right idea. This society has gotten TOO CLEVER for honest people to be able to survive in it.

But this is how you people WANT it, right? Of better yet, you are too chicken to call it out for what it is.

much as I decry the excesses of modern feminism, this is one example of why some people countering feminism or women need to get called to the mat too.

that we have not been told the whole story about these two people.

certainly, if it is true that this is some sort of power maneuver on her part to accuse the guy of a rape that might not have happened, well, it is a whole different story.

maybe the complete truth will come out on here about the situation as it actually happened and I can amend my original opinion.

I will throw a few thoughts out for others to mull over if they so choose.

It seems that all too often these cases of "he says, she says" seem like trying to parse out who is telling the truth among a bunch of felons who backstab each other after the execution of some crime for which they are caught.

In such cases, nobody's nose is clean and everyone's testimony is suspect.

It seems like this ought to be the attitude that men and women ought to be held to when a woman complains about being raped, or when a man complains about something a woman did to him.

Are there cases that are clear? Where the woman is accosted in a public place while she is going about her business for instance? Sure, of course. The same as if a man is robbed by someone he does not know and in a public place.

But as we know, so much of this area of rape accusations relies on a lot of complex social interdynamics between the accused and the accuser.

A respectful society of laws would treat the case with a healthy dose of doubt until and unless there is some definitive and damning piece of evidence that emerges that leads outsiders to question the veracity of one or the other of the people involved.

In this case, one can see some reason to take with some seriousness ANY evidence, up to and including photographs of the rape victim. For instance, if the photo is taken hours after the supposed rape and the alleged victim is acting as usual, one would be right to suspect that her accusation may be mercenary rather than legitimate.

Just some thoughts. Until we know more about the specifics of this case, it is difficult to make out what exactly is going on. I do not envy the courts or the lawyers dealing with cases like this-- especially when feminists are so eager to constantly ratchet up the hype factor and throw ALL men and their rights under the bus for some perceived incremental advantage. (when do men pull such stunts collectively against women, for instance? Moreso, are men also not vulnerable in life, even at the hands of women? Do we really want one sex being treated to invulnerability and imperviousness? And is this the feminists' idea of equality?)

and the women ruthless disloyal mercenary harpies and gold diggers.

Of course, nobody wants them...

Feminism is directly contradictory to the idea of gold digging. It isn't necessary.

I've met so many self proclaimed feminists (they sure smell like feminists) who are chasing guys with money that this puts the lie to this statement.

Seems they like their choices and freedoms and ability to disregard the needs of the men in their lives AND they want to snag a meal ticket too. Not contradictory at all, they just hate and disrespect men. Exactly what I always say about feminists.

I thought the right was supposed to be largely libertarian.

As an aside, I'm in CA next week. Anyone have the scoop on the absolute best taco stands and mexican food in LA?

You can argue that maybe 10% (if that) of the population is able to not have to settle for someone that was not their ideal.

The sad truth is that we are not all wealthy Adonises and beautiful goddesses and some of us have expectations we try to fill and cannot.

I am attracted to smart, interesting, trustworthy girls who are not ugly or morbidly obese and who still believe in love. But good luck with that.

Had I a trust fund or was not broke due to the current fiscal crisis, which wiped out all my wealth, or were I a physical specimen of beauty, I might have a shot at toying with finding someone like this.

Now, I prefer to be alone rather than to settle. But not everyone thinks as I do.

Maybe it is good that this guy is a dishrag for this girl. Maybe it is the best that he can get.