Letters to the Editor
DoubleE
Published Letters: 31 Editor's Choice: 3
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If you don’t know how she would feel about it, why do something that might offend?
[Read the article: The ladies love street harassment!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Yesterday I came home at lunch and noticed that some plants in my front yard needed watering. I was in a nice dress and heels but I got out my hose and watered them because I wasn’t going to have time after work. To my horror, so asshole in a pickup truck drove by and began catcalling. I’m sure, in his mind, I was looking for attention because I was watering my plants in heels. But the fact of the matter was, I was embarrassed, I hoped my neighbors didn’t see/hear, and after that emotion then I just thought, pissed, “what kind of immature jerk drives through a neighborhood catcalling women?”
It is an immature act whether or not a few women find it complimentary. I was just minding my business in this instance (and indeed every time I’ve been subjected to catcalls) and I didn’t “ask” for it. If you are one of these guys, please keep your thoughts to yourself, I and a lot of other women would be very grateful.
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Self-reliance
[Read the article: Why can't I find a relationship that will last?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]LW your experiences are not that extraordinary and I marvel that you needed therapy to get over them. How long have you been in therapy? It seems to me that you need to stop relying on your therapist and learn how to examine your life and learn how to draw your own conclusions and lessons from your experiences: this is called self-reliance. This is a skill that every successful person, both personally and professionally, needs to learn. If you do not have some specific psychological reason for seeing a therapist, and are merely relying on this person to help you navigate a perfectly normal existence, with perfectly normal ups and downs, then you have never learn self-reliance. Sure you take care of your self physically but mentally you are completely dependent and this is not good. When something happens to you that is disappointing, the normal thing to do is to be sad for a few days or weeks (depending on the event), think about what went wrong, see if there is anything that you could do in the future to prevent it, and then just pick up with your life again knowing that you are just a little wiser. People who cannot do this are destined to live their lives constantly caught up in their own little petty dramas, never finding peace, never receiving love, being too self-involved to ever truly give love to another person. They may think they are handing out love left and right but what they are really doing is telling the other person I need you but not because I love you but because I don’t want to be alone.
You need to get out there, date like a maniac, take the good with the bad, and eventually you’ll get it right. AND STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF!
I wish you luck.
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Mixed Message
[Read the article: Can I get this abstinence message in a medium?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Many of the posters in this thread seem to be missing the point. "True love waits" is not offensive. The post was pointing out the irony of this message being plastered across a pre-teen/teens ass.
It will be interesting to see if this sells. Will pro-abstinence only education parents allow their daughters to wear this? I would never allow my daughter (if I had one) to wear anything plastered across her ass. Not only is it sexualizing but it’s tacky, tacky, tacky.
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Go for it Girl!
[Read the article: I went to L.A. to work in film and just got yelled at]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]LW you are young and lost, and that’s not so unusual, or bad. Right now is the perfect time to pursue all your crazy ideas. After all you only have to take care of yourself. When you are older this will not be the case, so get it out of your system now. If the things that you choose to do turn out to be mistakes, learn from them and move on.
That being said let me try to keep you from making two very obvious ones.
First, do not change something as fundamental about yourself as your beliefs, for a man, any man--ever. If you are uncontrollably attracted to him at the moment, play it out. Have all the crazy sex you want, stay in CA for a while and get a job outside of the film industry, and have sex, sex, sex! Why not? My guess is that this relationship will fizzle sooner than you imagine and you will be free to pursue the next adventure.
Second, do not move in with your parents. You need life experience, not babying from mommy and daddy. If you do this, there’s a very good chance you will be doing it for the rest of your life and will never become your own person.
Good luck.
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Introduce sober grandma to drunk grandma?
[Read the article: My whole family is alcoholic. How to protect the kids?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I sense that you do not really want to totally cut your mother off. While I agree with the other posters that that is exactly what you should do, if you continue to have contact with her I have a suggestion: introduce sober grandma to drunk grandma. Film and record your mother when she is drunk and behaving like a lunatic, then produce a video for her to view when you are sure she is sober. Maybe it will do no good, maybe it will get through to her, if it doesn’t the video can serve two other purposes. One, you can show it to your kids when they are older to explain both why they can’t see grandma and to serve as a warning against drinking. Two, I have heard of grandparents suing for visitation after being cut off; I believe this would nip that right in the bud.