Letters to the Editor
shar476
Published Letters: 42 Editor's Choice: 2
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love ya, phil!
[Read the article: "Idol" watch: The season's saddest moment]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]i've watched american idol from the get-go (i'm 59), and i think this is one of their best seasons yet, save the cute east indian kid.
watching phil gain confidence and exuberance has been a delight. i started out as a solid lakisha fan and then i began to care more about phil making it to the final days.
make no mistake, phil WILL have a country music career. two from last season - of little talent - already have country careers (and i'm not talking about carrie underwood, the best singer from all of the seasons of a.i.) and phil undoubtedly will have his own.
as for the winner of this season? i assume melinda will take the top, but then again, one never knows. either way, she, lakisha, jordan, and blake will all have recording contracts in their future no matter who wins.
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ouch
[Read the article: Torn between a hymen and a hard place]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]that's all i can think of in regard to this article.
second time around has got to hurt, big time.
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Paglia drunk again
[Read the article: A cause they've long ago forgotten]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]God, is she boring or what when she's been drinking.
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Long-time Friend was a hoarder but all he could do was criticize me...
[Read the article: My mom's a hoarder]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]wow, i surely wish i was still in contact with my long-time friend; i would direct him to this site. but the problem is, you see, he would not see that his hoarding was a problem. he would only see that i was the problem.
i've known the guy since we were kids and we were best of friends throughout our 20s. when he met his lover (he's gay), our friendship was of course lessened a bit, but for years afterwards we had great times together - the three or four or five us friends.
initially, he and his boyfriend lived in a two bedroom apt with the second bedroom filled to the brim with things. a bit of magazine stacking was evident out in the hallways. but really, at the time, it was hardly noticeable.
as time went by and i moved out of town, my friend's hoarding apparently was let loose when they were given a house by his dad. i didn't much realize this until several years went by and i had the opportunity to visit. i was flabbergasted by what i encountered!
every inch of the house was covered top to bottom in meaningless crap; paths led one to the bathroom or the kitchen - one walked among towering canyons of newspapers and magazines and god knows what else. he saved everything! absolutely everything! he and the boyfriend had also started collecting stray cats and dogs who primarily stayed outside.
i recall registering some shock about all of this to which the boyfriend said he had tried everything he knew to make my friend stop but all pleas were to no avail. whereupon my friend began to sarcastically attack the both of us with rude comments about our own lives and how imperfect we were.
well, sure, no question about that, but at least when friends came to visit me they could find the couch without a map.
the next time i visited a few years later, it had only gotten worse. this time i was not allowed inside the house - there just wasn't room. we sat outside in the yard. by now, he had crap stored on the front porch, in the open garage, in the yard. he'd also rented a storage facility!
i didn't say much of anything because i knew it would cause him to deflect all criticism and heap it upon me.
the last time i talked with him, he had inherited some dough and bought the house two doors down. he claimed to be so excited with the new house because now he could open up boxes he'd had for years but wasn't "able to before" since there was "no room" in the other house.
the other house? oh, yeah, he was keeping that for storage. along with the rented storage facility.
this was about two years ago. i shudder to think what the new house looks like now.
but one thing i know: he is above reproach and will not and did not accept any chidding or criticism of his apparent hoarding problem. we'd even offered to help him sort or clear or whatever he needed to just make life a bit less cluttered for himself and his boyfriend.
but, no, it wasn't him. it was me or it was his other friend's who stopped visiting.
i miss him, but there wasn't much else i could do.
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Fair Housing Act doesn't apply to this LW
[Read the article: My new roommate arrived ... with mom attached!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]either way, i would venture that this LW falls into one of the following categories below.
personally, if it was me, i would not have a problem with asking the both of them to vacate within 24 hours since whatever "agreement" someone had with someone else is now null and void, unless they could show me something written down with all signatures. and which of course if they could show as much, mom most certainly wouldn't be on that agreement.
i would also have a problem at this point keeping the subletter under ANY circumstance because mom is sure to return in some way or another. and she wouldn't be a happy mommy at that point.
TRUST is a fundamental when having rooommates. when that trust is vacated then the roommate needs to also be vacated from the premises.
i don't care if this girl is "sick;" LW didn't sign up to deal with sick people, but of course, we all know this subletter isn't really sick at all. nice excuse though. worked didn't it?
Fair Housing Act
803(b) Exemptions
803(b)(1): Exempts people with fewer than 3 rental properties
803(b)(2): Exempts "rooms or units in dwellings containing living quarters occupied or intended to be occupied by no more than four families living independently of each other, if the owner actually maintains and occupies one of such living quarters as his residence."
http://www.usdoj.gov/crt/housing/title8.htm