Planting things is going a bit overboard, but I sympathize a bit with the neighbor who planted them.

When I moved into my house in a "neighborhood in transition," the house next door was a major concern. It was a big old house that had been split up into a duplex. It was owned by the family of the downstairs guy -- a 500 pound guy who never left the house. The tenants upstairs (a family) wanted to buy the house, but the owners weren't selling.

The fat guy died last winter. The tenants offered again. The family thought they could get more. The house went into probate. The tenants got kicked out. The block was abuzz with the possibility that this house would change hands -- anyone would be better than the current owner.

Over year later, the house is still vacant. Last spring, my husband and I cleaned the garbage -- yes, garbage -- that the dead fat guy left in the back yard and porch. Between the neighbor across the street and us, we kept the grass in decent shape. Now it's spring again and my husband is eyeing up the front yard.

The irony is that the longer the house remains vacant and unmaintained, the less it's worth. The offer the owners turned down last year is gonna look like a windfall by the time the family gets done fighting over it.

Like many others have already said here, it sounds like it's probably the meds.

A specific suggestion: Have your husband ask about Welbutrin. My Dr added it to my SSRI and it made a huge difference. The company line is that Welbutrin has "a low instance of sexual side effects" but the truth is that it makes most people horney.

Another thing that occurred to me is that you have the right to know how his therapy is going. Not necessarily in detail, but this is something that affects your union, your life together. Right now it seems like you are trusting him to just work out his problems, but it's more complex than that. He says he's working on the libido problem with his doctor but what does that mean, really? That they are trying different meds? That there are some things that need to be talked through? Look at it this way, if he had cancer, you wouldn't necessarily sit in on every examination (especially those of a personal nature) and treatment, but you would know what the plan was, you would know what to expect.

Because this is affecting you and your marriage, you might want to consider some couples therapy. First of all, that might open up the issue that this isn't just affecting him. Perhaps there are things that both of you could do to help him. And it sounds like there have been tough times in your marriage that he wasn't able to be there for you.

I look at it this way. Being married is sorta like being a team. There's this big play going down -- his mental health -- and you seem to be benched. If you are going to succeed, you have to play as a team.

... they could be marketing breast implants for little girls.

Oh, and Christopher1988 -- "...Less than 10% of US girls start to menstruate before 11 years...

according to http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12509562?dopt=Abstract

Stress, body fat, social/environmental and other factors may affect when girls start to menstruate. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menarche

Even it were becoming "normal" for young girls to begin puberty, it wouldn't necessarily be optimal to use that as a reason to let little girls act and dress like teenagers/grownups, since there is no sign that their intellectual, emotional or decision-making maturation is accelerating too.

Aside from the drinking, he's not pulling his weight and he's lost your trust.

Tell him that.

Say, you say you are going to be home at 8 pm and you roll in at 1 am -- that's a massive show of disrespect for me. Show me you can be trusted or I'm out of here.

Say, I'm your wife not your maid. Pull your weight around here or I'm out of here.

He says he'll kill himself if you leave? Tell him, you don't have to do anything so drastic, just be honest and honor your commitments to me.

Personally, I don't think he'll really kill himself. Why would he if he's having so much fun?

"What troubles me about Yad Vashem is that Pope Pius XII is attacked there, even though no one saved more Jews during the Nazi period than he did."

So exactly what did Pious save the Jews from if the Holocaust didn't happen?

... but I happened to get sucked in last night. I didn't even know it was going to be the big announcement show. I just happened to be looking for background noise, and thought maybe I should see what all the fuss is about.

What saddened me most was that these parents don't seem to acknowledge that they created this situation. Kate spouts stats about the divorce rates of parents of multiples and pretends her only option to support her family was to pimp them out. Jon says nothing at all.

They may be making a bundle off the show, but it's pretty obvious that they've paid a high price for their "career" choice. It's a shame the didn't have the common sense to see that coming.