Letters to the Editor
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Published Letters: 158 Editor's Choice: 40
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This was more "sudden" for you than it was for him
[Read the article: My boyfriend dumped me and I'm desolate]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Your boyfriend had clearly been stewing, festering and brooding over this for a while. So by the time he broke up with you, he was already well through a lot of the stages of the breakup that you're just starting in.
Have patience with yourself, realize there will be awful days and good days-deceptively good at first, because they'll be followed by more awful ones. This is not a linear process. I once broke up with someone and was devastated, and on my first "good" day out, I went shopping with a girlfriend, with my best "to hell with men" attitude on, and then found myself sobbing in a dressing room when the song "On My Own" came on the PA system. Lots of more days like that followed. It's one step forward, ten back, four forward, one back, and so on.
One of the trickier aspects of all this is how to learn from the experience without beating the crap out of yourself repeatedly. One thing you might think about is whether in the next relationship--and there will be one, I promise--you want to take less for granted and dig a little deeper into what the guy is feeling, and what you are feeling, and "take the temperature" of the relationship occasionally. Laughin is great, but you need the sometimes-painful heart-to-hearts also.
Be kind to yourself, but honest with yourself too. And good luck--from all of us!
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btdenver missed the point...
[Read the article: King Kaufman's Sports Daily]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I think Kaufman's points about Javier--both of which are indisputable--were that: 1) he has NO perspective, acting as if three years is a long time to be away from the playoffs when many superior players have almost never been there at all; and 2) HE chose to sign with a loser, going for the bucks rather than the playoff opportunity, so he has no one to blame but himself that he's had to watch the post-season on television for lo, these three years. Kaufman never said he was a bad player or that he contributed nothing to his teams in the playoffs.
I have a different bone to pick with King: I agree with Brennan's "The Dog Ate My Homework" comments, but man, what a humongous cliche to use!! All to reach the earth-shattering conclusion that guys who are obviously guilty are... drumrolls, please... GUILTY!! No sh#t, Christine! Why does King act like she's saying anything profound here?
And hey, Floyd, what would those "hundreds of reasons" for failing the drug test be, exactly? Did any journalist think to ask him that? I'm guessing he'd be a mite stumped...
(Absolutely a side note on Floyd, but why are all athlete's wives named "Amber"?)
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This is nothing more than an self-indulgent blog...
[Read the article: My big fat obnoxious former self]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]...as others have pointed out. I laughed when I saw Rebecca Golden bill herself as an "award-winning writer." Was the award the equivalent of the old "Who's Who" scam, where if you pay for the book they mention you in it?
I assume there is a certain amount of bravado necessary to navigate the world and society when you are that large. But certainly with the world in the shape that it is (no pun intended), there are a helluva lot more things to be brave about than the size of your thighs. Go out and make a difference in the world, for God's sake, instead of patting yourself on the back for facing down rude stares.
There is no such thing as "big-girl righteousness," which sounds like something out of a bad Camryn Mannheim "Lifetime TV" movie. Why? Because there is nothing "righteous" about bingeing until you weigh more than a quarter of a ton. There is nothing righteous about starving, either: weight is completely value-neutral. So DEAL with that, fatties, thinnies, and in-betweenies. It's just weight. It's not morality.
And I hope Ms. Golden finds out why she gained such an extraordinary amount of weight initially. Surgery alone won't solve her eating issues. One thing she may also discover, as she moves closer to a healthy weight, is that the world is not all about her.
And please, for the love of God, Salon, spare us from tripe like this in the future.
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Ignore the conventional wisdom--and your enemies
[Read the article: Clueless Joe]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Gore ran away from Clinton--and toward the likes of Lieberman--in 2000 because he believed the talking-head rhetoric that Clinton was a liability and that the Democrats were too far-left. Much of this rhetoric came from the same old tired bunch of echo-chamber conventional-wisdom commentators, and some of it came from Republicans.
So Gore picked good ol' Joe, who had spanked Clinton on the floor of the Senate and never met a Republican he didn't like. Lieberman then went on to treat his "debate" with Cheney like an evening at the Harvard Club, and then eagerly conceded the 2000 election, tossing around Republican talking points like Florida oranges.
Gore also ignored congressmembers who literally BEGGED him to send Clinton to campaign in their districts. And he temporarily abandoned his environmentalism, which he rarely mentioned during the campaign, for fear of looking like a lefty granola-cruncher.
Now this same crowd of talking (and empty) heads are wringing their collective hands about the Democrats' supposedly suicidal choice of Ned Lamont, as evidence that the party has once again careened dangerously to the left. (Ignore the inconvenient fact that on the same evening, Democrats tossed Cynthia McKinney over for a more moderate choice.)
I PRAY the Democrats don't listen this time. They should rally around Lamont in Connecticut, and pick up his banner of true opposition in the rest of the country. People are eager for a change. They want their country back. And they want the Democrats to lead the way--accent on "lead."