I love it when the letter writers write letters back to us in the letters section!

I realized that my letter, besides containing typos, forgot to mention that I ended up getting back with my boyfriend later. So, I think my story was a TAD incomplete, and didn't seem quite adequate.

After three years of name calling, late night fights, and agonizing over my past, I broke it off. I was tired and bedraggled. I bought my own house and moved out. I dated other people for a few months, but my ex visited (joint custody of a cat was the primary reason - he cleans the litterbox). Anyhoo, we would occasionally end up in bed together. The fact was that, even though I started to date someone who was much better suited to me, in terms of personality, my ex and I had a special bond, a familiarity... something that I THINK the Japanese call an "en", although I'm not sure that that is the exact right term here. And YOWZA, is he ever good in bed.

Although I had said that I probably wouldn't have another threesome, I ended up having one while we were apart. I didn't plan on telling the ex, but he eventually got it out of me (during some dirty talk). Anyway, after seven months of being broken up, we ended up back together. And although he's not thrilled with my additional threesome activity, he's not freaking out, either. I think his biggest gripe is that he'd really love to try something like that, and I've never had a threesome with someone that I loved deeply - that kind of thing is scary to me in a way that having casual sex with friends isn't.

I'm not saying that things are going to work out for us in the long run, but I know that he is very committed to being a good boyfriend - he's talking marriage (I'm holding back, understandably). He actually HAS changed - I didn't think that people could - and is more attentive, helpful, thoughtful, and understanding (AND he's now a Democrat - so many positive changes). He realizes that my life away from him (before I met him and after we broke up) was not a reflection on him, and that I AM a catch that shouldn't be thrown back. He dated a few women when we were apart, and it finally dawned on him that there aren't that many women like me out there.

So, my advice, modified, is for you to move out. Get your own place, get your own life, and again, don't apologize to him any longer. I understand that he genuinely feels pain, but that is for him to deal with. Tell him that you can see each other, but you're not going to put up with his shenanigans.

I can tell that you are smart and confident enough to realize that your boyfriend should be happy to have you around. Never let that go. Be strong. If he realizes that you're worth it (as mine finally did), then he'll grow up. But don't pin any hopes on it.

Oh, and I can't believe that anyone called you a slut. Serious? I don't even read anything besides the editor's choice letters these days, but WOW.

Plus, then someone would try to top that act with chincilla juggling. Actually, I'm glad animals aren't involved, but I can't believe that they can't twirl fire batons. That's just bollocks.

I always found the No Kids and Single rule interesting. Why is that? Is there logic behind it, or is it just that they contestants need to appear young and available.

This year's Miss USA scares me. As far as I can tell, her coke habit is probably the coolest thing about her.

I'm going to vote for Crash - I actually enjoyed it quite a bit, so I'm not here to knock it overall. I thought that the plot was interesting, and at least you didn't spend your time thinking, "Oh, well, I know EXACTLY what is going to happen next". And I thought Sandra Bullock's character was fantastic - she was so needy, sad, and angry, and I think her character represented a bit of everyone - the things that we think but never say.

The thing that actually bugged me about Crash was that the director/writers appeared to be trying to explore a variety of issues dealing with race, treating everyone fairly and evenhandedly, showing both extreme flaws and inherent goodness. Yet, they STILL managed to make Asians look like assholes. The only East Asian in the whole film who wasn't a slave trafficker or a slave was the insurance agent who wouldn't (couldn't) help out the Afghani store owner following a robbery. I watched this movie with several Asian friends and each one of them kept waiting to see how the Asians would be redeemed by the end. They were disappointed. One even remarked, "Well, I guess they just had so many other races to deal with that they didn't have the time to get to us."

So Crash is my vote for a decent yet flawed attempt at getting to us.

My partner was circumcized when he was 13, and he's on the fence on the issue. And that's coming from someone who fully experienced the pain of the procedure. He grew up in America, but his parents are from East Asia, and decided rather late that it would be better for him. They did give him a choice, and he didn't care, so the procedure was performed.

I thought that this was a great article. Beautifully written, humorous, and heartbreaking. I didn't even bother reading the vast majority of letters because I knew that they would be obnoxious. But the Editor's Choice letters were informative. Thanks, Salon. This is the kind of writing I love to pay for.