Why not just ask one of these men directly about their "I can't stand someone who is not clean" choice. I bet you'll get a zillion interpretations of that question.

But given that eHarmony.com is full of Christain overtones, my guess is that the original intent of the question has something more to do with STD's or how much the woman sleeps around.

Wow! What a bunch of losers they are all.

hello! it could be that enough time had passed from the time he took his tokes to when he started to drive, such that he was no longer too stoned to drive. did it occur to you that he could have just held the poor kid hostage there while they had this talk in the parking lot right after the steely dan concert.

as one reader already mentioned, moral absolutism is what one needs to worry about more than taking a toke now and then. please! i wish i had a dad like you!

Maybe you need your own "fact checker." The word "Radicalism" in never mentioned in the article. Go back and read the quote. You'll see that he got it right.

Cary, advice was just so spot on! However unjust it may all seem, it comes down to that cliche- you've got to pick your battles. Honestly, for all concerned, the best solution seems to just consider it the cost of doing business and pitch in for now.

Meanwhile, take your time and find the best new "home" for yourself and leave the dysfunction behind. All offices like that have some level of politics- you'll never fully escape it. The sooner you learn to put it all in perspective, the more seasoned and wise you will become. Good Luck.

wow! Allie! i am copying your ditty to my hard drive for the archives. that is something i would like to refer to again and again. thanks for the clarification.

All those Hillary sore-losers crying about how unfair politics are in the schoolyard sandbox. Let them vote for McBush then. We don't need their pathetic small little minds to win the vote.

For every one of them, there are thousands of disgusted disaffected demoralized former Bush supporters who despite their grief can clearly see the reality of the choice facing them this November.

Count among them many many military families. We do not have the luxury of throwing tantrums. We are driven to do whatever we can right now to save our family members over there serving in Iraq before it is too late.

Do those with DS typically outlive their parents? It all quite noble that the parents say they will take care of their DS children for life. But they cannot take care of their special needs child after they are dead. What happens to them after the parents die? A ward of the state? Burden to their siblings?

Banning legal abortions would surely just bring back the hanger or the back alley butcher job. Are we somehow a more compassionate nation in that case? That certainly does not sound like "Pro Life" to me?

After pondering on the long list of upsides to Clinton as Sec of State, it also became clear to me how Hillary's light could overshadow any pitiful attempts by Palin to be a serious contender in 2012.

Imagine after witnessing 8 years of Hillary's intelligence, leadership, competence, prowess, finesse, and power to transform on the world stage, how truly pathetic and utterly lacking Palin's small town folksy effect and tortured syntax will seem to the average American.

It will not matter how much Palin tried to bone up on geography in the next 8 years, she will never be presidential material. Seeing her in the light of Hillary's experience will only highlight Palin's inadequancy.

The GOP better come up with something better than that if they want to reclaim power within the next generaion or two.

What I have learned over time is that we can form strong emotional attachments to just about anyone we share time and space with, especially if there is an element of physical attraction thrown in there. Does that mean we can sustain nurturing long-term emotional links with everyone with whom we form a bond? Hell no. Usually the first year of relationships is all about finding out—is this a flash in the pan? Or is this link harmonized enough to go the distance? Deep rooted conflicts between two people who like each other do not usually become apparent immediately. Only over time, once many sacrifices and compromises have been made are we able to ascertain the answer to the question—am I able and gladly willing to comprise on some of my hopes desires dreams for the sake of “us?” It is a tough thing to align your fate with someone else; and to accept that you are playing such an integral role in the way destiny plays out in someone else’s life.

If an emotional bond was formed, the pain of separation is a given. Whether the ensuing pain from a separation has its origins in an injured ego, hurt pride, comfortable habits obliterated, or truly is matter of the heart, or perhaps a mixture of all of that it does not matter-- either way, pain is a given. But is the pain of separation an indication that two people were right for each other after all? Are you kidding? What is an indicator of whether two people were right for each other is how they interacted when they were together, not how much pain they feel when they are apart.