Where do you people get this shit? Did I miss the email or something that got out a message that black me are attracted to big women?

I'm a black woman and trust me, black men do NOT want big/large/fat women. Maybe after marriage a black man doesn't mind too much if Lashondra puts on a few pounds, but trust me - when a black girl is single, if she's fat she is invisible to men, all men, PERIOD.

I'm totally aghast at the article. I was harrassed and insulted from kindergarden right up through high school because I was fat (not even obese, just fat). I was not, nor am I ugly, nor was I 'weird' in any way, just fat. Where the eff were the black men that 'like' fat arses when I was growing up?

What a bunch of steriotyped bullshite.

I'm a woman in my fifties and the 'Carter Family Curse' has set in; my hair is falling out at the top of my noggin. For three years I whined, moaned, bitched and fretted over it. My scalp exists on a diet of women's Rogaine but it's beginning to look like a losing battle.

I have numerous relatives on the East Coast I know only through photographs. I noticed in photos that my eensie adorable grand-niece always has her head shaved - no hair at all. My family and many friends are black and I've known many parents who kept their kid's head shaven. I think they were kept shaved for convience but who knows, maybe it was more about fashion & style. However, whatever the reason, the clipped kiddies were always boys, and for boys being shaven is no big deal.

I asked my sister what was up. I was told my niece has alopecia, a disease of the hair follicles. When the tot grows hair there are large bald patches and she looks like an ill-clipped poodle. Talk about a bolt of lightning to put things in proper perspective; imagine being a girl growing up with no hair at all!

Have not whined, bitch, moaned or fretted over hair from the day I found out about my grand-niece to this. If I could trade her having hair for me being completely bald I'd do it in a New York minute.

LW, tell your boyfriend about my eensie little niece - a small girl growing up bald in a world where every girl wants hair down to their arse. Maybe her story will put things into perspective for him, for everyone.

I have never used Blockbuster's new mail service, but I might if they differ from Netflix on 'saved' movies. For example, I heard about the movie Miss Potter and put it on my saved list early on, just after it's oncoming release to theaters was advertised and long before the Miss Potter DVD was released. Yet, although I had it in my saved queue early on, I was not one of the first in line to receive the DVD when it was finally released. I've had the movie in my queue(s) for months and it still shows as 'very long wait' now that it's in my regular (non-saved) queue. That is not fair! Why aren't the DVDs divided out depending on how long you've had it in your queues? Gurrr! If Blockbuster handles that bit differently, I would switch in a nano-second.

P.S. I asked Netflix how they decided who gets movies first and it made no sense to me at all. If anyone understands Netflix's rational, I'd appreciate if it could be explained to me.

There were a husband/wife that worked at my office. The wife passed away suddenly & unexpectedly. We all went into mourning for the lovely woman. The husband (whom I despise for reasons I need not elaborate on) was heaped with sympathy & such.

Three weeks after his wife's demise he remarried a lady he met on a grieving widow/widowers web site - Three freakn' weeks! Shoot - even I hadn't even ceased grieving for my loss co-worker yet. The kindest thing I can say is we each grieve and recover in our own manner. Yeah. Right.

Ok, Ok, I'm picking on men? Right. Ok, well I have a very dear woman friend who divorced recently. Even as she booted her ex out, she welcomed her new love interest into her home. Time between lovers? Uh... probably not even ten minutes.

So LW, if your ex took a few weeks to bounce back, that, my dear, was a long time from my observations.

My advice? Follow Mr. Blue's advice. as posted by others. It's either that or you'll find yourself disintegrating from the inside out.

Shoot. I'm following Mr. Blue's advice just to recover from my envy of my divorced friend mentioned above. She working on achieving hubby #3 and here I am still single and likely to remain so! Hum - maybe a class in Japanese brush painting?

I think we'd all be better off if more women became adventurous sexual beings before they reached their mid-40s.

Because after their mid-forties women have no needs, no rights, no looks to celebrate or what? Work with me here, what are you saying LW?

Hey slutty teen, enjoy it while you can because a lot of people out there think women have sell-by dates!

No, no Garrison, you got it all wrong. It wasn't Dick Tracy that led to our 'mobiles' as I pretentiously prefer to call it. It was Captain Kirk flipping back the cover of his communicator and asking Scotty to beam him up that birthed the modern mobile (damn it, there I go again) cell phone.

All right. On a good day, I might be willing to admit Tracy's 2-way wrist radio was great grandfather to Kirk's communicator.