Letters to the Editor
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Published Letters: 52 Editor's Choice: 2
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Nothing More Empowering than a Full Bank Account
[Read the article: Do not go gentle into that Eileen Fisher]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I'm in my 50's and feeling secure and empowered. I can quit my job if it starts to annoy me and I will be ok. I can take trips and buy all the books I want.
I know I will be able to send my son to college.
My advice is to forget about your looks. Start young and work hard and save your money. It will make you feel better than any face lift.
With Mary Elizabeth Williams ruefully confessing how important her looks are expecting a lot women to feel the same way let me confess how important money is to me.
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No End In Sight
[Read the article: Who would the GOP rather face?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Here is what you all need to do. After whoever gets the Democratic nomination watch the movie No End In Sight. That will put things in perspective.
I watched for the first time last night. It certainly put me back in that place before this whole Democratic Primary thing got started which is deep anger at the high level of arrogance and incompetence of this current administration. For people yelling monster and criminal and inexperienced at each others candidate realize that a chimpanzee with a pair dice would make better decisions than this current administration.
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Shock and Hurt
[Read the article: Mirror, mirror on the Wall]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You don't need to be brilliant to figure this one out. She is shocked and extremely hurt. Her head is buzzing with about a thousand courses of actions she could take. Divorce is probably one of those actions she is contemplating. Meanwhile her husband is being punished by the law, the press and the public so there is no point in trying to punish him further.
In fact, at this point for her own survival and that of her daughters she needs to support him. She needs to show everyone that he is not a monster by standing by his side.
Her brain will settle on a course of action once the excitement dies down.
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Adoption
[Read the article: I need a new dream]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I also spent many years and a lot of money trying to get pregnant. It was really hard on my marriage.
I was afraid to adopt. I didn't want to spend another ten years trying to adopt and have my heart broken. I wanted a healthy baby - not a older child nor a special needs child.
I talked with a wonderful social worker who specializes in adoptions and she reassured me that everything I wanted was possible and very probable.
I went with a domestic adoption with an adoption agency in Texas that specializes in Hispanic infants. It cost a lot of money - maybe about 20000 at the time and there were a lot of tedious forms. (There is a generous tax break for adoptions now). I am sure the cost will be more now and maybe you can't afford it.
I got everything I wanted. To this day I am so happy and grateful. I love my son more than anything.
I guess what I am saying is talk to a social worker who specializes in adoption before you decide against it.
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Enjoyed
[Read the article: The best-laid plans]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I enjoyed it. It reminded me of my youth and my attempts to lose my innocence. Normally I wouldn't have written but the number of negative letters made me feel I needed to publish my positive reaction.
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My favorite stroller
[Read the article: The parent trap]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I had two stroller throughout my son's babyhood. A larger plush stroller which was great while my son was a newborn but when he was old enough to hold his head up the $17 umbrella stroller became my favorite. I brought it to Europe with me and we traveled around Norway. I could strap a large backpack containing baby supplies around the handles. When I needed to I could easily put the back pack on - pick up my baby - and with my foot kick and fold up the stroller and easily go up steps or an escalator or into a bus.
It was a work horse. I used it until he was 4 years old.
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I surrender
[Read the article: Marching into the mommy wars]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I've been in and out of work many times in my career. I quit work the first time to try my hand at writing full time and because the work I was doing was stressful. The second time I quit was because my son was born. I was completely in love and wanted to enjoy every moment with him. I went back to work part time three years later. The part time job was one of the best jobs I ever had. It was a great balance between work and home and the job itself fit me like a glove.
It is hard to go back. I work in technology and each time I go back everything has changed. I am sort of at the bottom again and have to work my way back up. It takes time for me to get comfortable. I've been at my current job a year and a half and I am still not comfortable. But that is ok. I've had a job that I worked at for four years and was never comfortable the whole time.
I am not as far in my career as I could be but I've made my peace with that. I've lived the life I wanted. I don't compare my choices with other peoples choices.
And I've never had any other woman in my circle of friends make any sort of judgment about the choices I made. And I've never questioned their choices about the balance they've chosen.
I like reading about other people's experiences. I don't like when they start judging other peoples decisions.