Letters to the Editor
NicoleShield
Published Letters: 136 Editor's Choice: 5
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Sha-la-la-la, my oh my, you've got to kiss the girl
[Read the article: Lonely single guy tired of being lonely and single seeks person ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Don't forget to kiss the girl if you like her. Doesn't need to be shoving your tongue down her throat. Brush your lips across hers at the end of the date and leave her wanting more.
These 3rd date girls... did you want another date with them? If so, maybe you weren't physical enough.
Physical things to do:
* Pick her up (literally) and set her on a low wall so she can walk on it.
* Randomly start dancing with her if you hear some swing music or something in the background (you need to know how to dance to do this)
* Ruffle her hair
* Rest your chin on her head, with your arms around her
* Hold hands and swing arms as you're walking around
* If you find an abandoned shopping cart, wheel her around in it (it sounds wierd but this actually happened to me once, and I loved it)
* Go on a date involving clambering over rocks and tree trunks, and help her over them, draw her towards you as though you are going to kiss her, but don't until later
* It is Fall. Go apple picking. Help her get apples that are too high for her to reach.
Don't tickle until you know each other well.
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Pink wasn't always for girls
[Read the article: Home-decorating dreams?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]An above poster asked whether in non-media exposed cultures, pink for girls and blue for boys is the norm.
No, pink/girls blue/boys is not a universal.
In roman times, red was the color of manhood, being the color of blood/lust/passion, and blue, a more tranquil color associated with the sky, was feminine. Pink (light red) and light blue, being paler versions of the colors, became associated with baby girls and boys in the opposite of what we now see as the norm.
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Link about colors, in fact.
[Read the article: Home-decorating dreams?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]http://www.gentlebirth.org/archives/pinkblue.html
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We need to start throwing names around
[Read the article: Congress to cave on spying, again]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The democrats need to start using the same nasty name-calling tactics. How about we start referring to candidates as "Weak on Protecting Freedom" when they pull stunts like this?
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Re: The 4 year old who hugged his teacher.
[Read the article: Why aren't boys allowed to be victims?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I totally got sexually harassed in a similar way... three girls, Ekka, Effe, and Kenin, that were at a summer camp I taught at, used to always jump on me and grab my boobs. Little kids will do that to women. It's really annoying.
I'm not sure I'd report them for sexual harassment. Inappropriate, sure. And don't tell me kids that age don't know not to grab womens' breasts... they know it is not appropriate. That's why they do it. Still, I'm not sure a lawsuit is the right punishment. I'd go with a time-out.
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In addition to the lawyer
[Read the article: An elderly salesman terrorized me in front of my kids!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Document every phone call.
Now, while its fresh and you can still remember, right down the name of the person who told you they would do the work for free, the time of day, and the date. Write down what they said. Document every phone call you can remember, including the names of the people you talked to.
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Why do you need to trumpet your beliefs?
[Read the article: Should I come out as an atheist?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I suppose it is a phase everyone goes through. I went through it too, loudly proclaiming my religious beliefs to everyone who will listen. But at the end of the day... its obnoxious.
There are appropriate times and places to discuss religion, but there is really no need to broadcast your beliefs to the whole world. If you want to discuss it over coffee with close friends, sure, religion is an interesting topic. Otherwise, it's not really appropriate.
It's a bit drama queenish to sit around fantasizing about "the talk"... "Mom, Dad, I have something to tell you... I'm an atheist!!!" Do they really need a big pronouncement?
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The prudishness in the culture is absurd.
[Read the article: If Britney Spears shouldn't be naked in front of her kids, what about me?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It's just a body. Going to a nude beach is really not an erotic experience. I see nothing wrong with normalizing nudity. I saw (and still see) any number of my relatives nude regularly. We all share the bathroom. No one makes a big deal. I've yet to get aroused by the sight of my naked grandma, and I'm well past puberty.
Your kids will be fine.
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The occasional nudity
[Read the article: If Britney Spears shouldn't be naked in front of her kids, what about me?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]There have been quite a few letters that say something like, "My parents never walked around naked, I only saw them naked a few times, and those few times were absolutely traumatic".
There have also been quite a few letters that say, "My parents treated nudity like no big deal, and when I saw them naked I didn't think it was a big deal either".
Anyone else making the same connection that I am?
Of COURSE it was traumatic to see your parents naked if they normally hid themselves away. They had taught you that the body was shameful, so when you DID see a body, you felt shame and disgust.
I believe that teaching such bodily shame is wrong and immoral. I believe that equating nakedness with sexuality hurts children more by making the inevitable moments when they see you naked (and it will happen eventually if you are living in the same house) traumatic.
And there are plenty of people in the US who are naked in their homes, its not just something that those durn furrin folk like the Japanese and Europeans do. And given that the US is a country of immigrants, I think it is safe to assume there are a fair amount of those durn furriners here. Just because YOU are from a family of non-nudity doesn't mean all Americans are. There's nothing inherently American about walking around your house clothed.
Also, being naked doesn't mean you don't believe in privacy. It's not like you're reading the kids diary or barging into their room when the door is locked. Being naked also doesn't mean that you don't have bounderies. It doesn't mean you are parading yourself. It just means you don't have clothes on. It really is no big deal.
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Slutty costumes don't bother me as much as...
[Read the article: My girlfriend's daughter is dressing like a stripper for Halloween!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]... non-spooky ones.
Halloween is a feast to honor the dead and the spirits. I want to see ghosts, vampires, goblins, witches, banshees, demons, devils. I hate princesses, cops, firefighters, superheros, electrical appliances and the like. I want to be scared on Halloween.