Letters to the Editor
coffeegyrl
Published Letters: 27
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10 Years of Salon
[Read the article: Ten years of Salon]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I am a subscriber and visit Salon nearly every day. Thank you Salon for being the site I go to in order to find out "what's really going on."
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Adults get to make their own rules
[Read the article: We're married, but do we have to live together?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I encourage the original letter writer to continue to imagine creative alternatives for her situation. Legal marriage does not require that the parties cohabitate. If living apart works, then why fix it?
To the other letter writers: Enough with the name calling already! Agree to disagree and move on.
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AA is more than not drinking
[Read the article: My family treats my dad like dirt]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Suggesting AA meetings for this man is a good idea. Putting the "plug in the jug" is only the first step. The priceless thing available in AA is finding one's own higher power. Once we connect with that higher power everything has the potential to change. The family will probably not change, but our attitude toward them will.
"If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are halfway through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook on life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves. Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us--sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them."
From "Alcoholics Anonymous" (the Big Book) pages 83 & 84.
It really works. Miracles.
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Been there, and my choice was...
[Read the article: My best friend is marrying a guy who's nothing but trouble]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Years ago my younger sister asked me to be in her wedding. I had serious misgivings about the guy she was marrying. He had been married twice and had abandoned both his wives after a child appeared. I went over to their place and told her I couldn't be in the wedding. It was very emotional for me. She was my little sister and I wanted to be supportive, but just couldn't support her marriage to this guy. She took it well--much better than I did. I attended the wedding as a guest. She had child number one. So far, so good. A month or so after child number two appeared, he left her. I knew it was going to happen and was glad I had not been in the wedding. He had no contact with his children at all for about five years.
I'm glad I was honest with her and true to myself. I was able to continue to support her because my position had not changed. She will always be my sister, and I will always love her no matter what choices she makes.
We should always listen to that little voice that tells us the true thing to do, even if it is not a popular decision.
P.S. Heterosexuals need to reevaluate their ideas of marriage. It's not something that you just do, and then undo. There are people who really want to marry and cannot. Please take marriage seriously.
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If it walks like a duck...
[Read the article: If my wife dressed better, would gay guys stop hitting on me?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]talks like a duck, dresses like a duck, is attracting other ducks
then maybe IT IS a duck.
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santorum?
[Read the article: Don't write Rick Santorum into the Constitution]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]A definition (loosely quoted from memory) from Dan Savage at Savage Love: That frothy mixture of feces and lube that happens during anal sex.
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Since when is Cary a sex columnist?
[Read the article: Talk dirty to me, please?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Hey LW: Dan Savage wouldn't answer your letter? Too bad. This columnist will have to do.
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Really...
[Read the article: The minimum wage went up, so the owner cut my hours!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]does a part time job while in college have to be about a higher calling?
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Best belly laugh of the day so far:
[Read the article: I Like to Watch]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]And then there's Jo, the whoring sea donkey of the group.
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"Vagina?" Monologues
[Read the article: The "hoohaa" monologues]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I have always thought that the title of the play in question was ridiculous. If we are going to talk about an anatomical area, call it by its correct name, already!
Is not the area of interest the vulva? Outer labia, inner labia, external part of the clitoris? The vagina is the canal that is between the vulva and the uterus.
I realize anatomy books have not named these parts clearly, but as women it is time we claim these structures proudly and not euphemistically.
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RAPE IS VIOLENCE, NOT SEX
[Read the article: The private war of women soldiers]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It really makes me angry that people still think that rape is about sex, that men "need sex" so they rape women. Or that men in prison "need sex" so they rape other men.
Rape is a violent act that is about the rapist taking power over the victim.
No human, female or male, asks for this violence to be done to them.
There is no "excuse" for rape. Anywhere or any time.
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Way to go Mark Benjamin!
[Read the article: Army pledges to investigate injured troop charge]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It's about time that US military leaders are finally listening to the reporting of injustices being done to our soldiers.
Hopefully this will lead to much overdue corrections of the abuse soldiers take at the hands of their superiors.
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so what?
[Read the article: "I'm not an overhyped luxury handbag"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Salon's own beloved Keith Knight offers a canvas shopping bag with his artwork and the slogan "I Don't Do Plastic."
Somehow that works better for me.
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Unfortunately...
[Read the article: The workers I supervise are out of control]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]some people have never grown emotionally past high school. They don't have a life outside of the office. Their world consists of work, the kids and their activities and TV. What makes life interesting on TV? DRAMA. A quiet serene life? BORING.
Material things won't make them happy past the moment they unwrap the new toy. We're bored. Let's look for some excitement and create some new drama!
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What?
[Read the article: I'm addicted to Harry Potter fan fiction!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Clitorectomy? Why not castration?
Horrible either way.
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gag a maggot!
[Read the article: My office mate lets off noxious farts]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]A person I was dating had really noxious farts. She was diabetic. It turned out that her blood sugar was out of control and she needed to start insulin. Once her sugar was down significantly the heinous gas stopped.
So the medical angle might not be a bad idea after all.