Huge, unsorted in boxes probably work for some people. But in my experience, a lot of people with a huge in box also tend to be lax when it comes to following up on email, especially if the email is about something that's happening in the future. A message about a meeting in three weeks, or a policy change that's happening next month, gets lost and forgotten, as more current email comes in and pushes it off the main screen. And that affects me, because I have to send follow up messages or reminders.

I think searching email is overrated. If you send quick, contextual emails, it's hard to find them in a search. If I send you an email that says "I sent the papers you wanted to J", how will you find that in a search? Maybe that's why people have started sending emails that contain endless pages of quotes of other messages - I got one email recently that quoted 16 previous emails. That makes email much harder to read quickly, although I guess it makes it easier to search.

Personally, I like using folders to organize my mail. By saving items I need for reference in separate folders, I can look at my in box and immediately see what needs further action.

It's a shame that the original Hairspray isn't easily available on DVD. I'd love to see them both as a double feature - I can enjoy one as a wacky John Waters comedy and the other as a Broadway musical reinterpretation. I don't mind comparing the two, but it seemed like Stephanie's main criticism is "it isn't like the original" rather than "there are specific problems with this movie". Why can't we have both?

I love musicals, and for me, the addition of musical numbers is what makes this version of Hairspray stand apart. I'm sure there will be differences from the original Hairspray, and maybe some things that aren't as good - but the original didn't have the musical numbers (in the same way) so I'm looking forward to seeing the new version - as an addition to the older one.

(I'm always frustrated when movie critics go to see musicals and complain that they contain "show music". It's like complaining that a comic movie contains comedy, or a dramatic movie contains drama. An adaptation of a Broadway musical contains music in the Broadway musical style. Everything doesn't have to be rock or rap.)

If you must tell her - and it seems like you feel you have to - don't treat it as seriously as Cary suggests. His approach makes it sound much worse than it is, and it would make me wonder if people were talking about me all over the web.

But who hasn't googled their name in a moment of boredom, or the names of old friends or classmates? Sometimes it's funny what pops up - whether it's accurate or not. You might mention casually in conversation that you googled yourself and found something funny, or weird, or unexpected. And then see if she brings it up herself. If she does, you can talk about it. If she doesn't, then she probably doesn't want to talk about it, and you should drop it.

But don't treat it as if it's a deep dark secret out of a Tennessee Williams play.