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Wednesday, October 25, 2006 10:42 AM

Without Pretense of Moral High Ground...

...I'd like to know if this polyamorous, post-matrimonial behavior is about sex, love or addiction.

I'm hearing folks claim it's just about, "sex," when they want to indulge in this apparent compulsion; about "love" when they don't want their partners to do the same.

If a person can't stop, control or contain their desire for sexual mischief in spite of all the attendent misery and suffering it causes, we're talking about addiction. No, we're not talking about a lifestyle choice, we're talking about a public health concern.

Smart people like to rationalize-away the need for behavioral limits when their own behaviors become an issue that limits their availability to a larger partnership pool. "Limit my sexual intake? Whatever for?" This is the mentality of a hardcore junkie. Throw in an above average IQ and the mixture will never get out of a paper bag.

There's also a fairly large body of scholarship that places sexual compulsion in the symptomology of schizoaffective disorders (eg bipolar disease). Why aggrandize one's own illnesses by hiding behind a mantra of, "open mindedness?" If you don't care to stop because you don't know how to stop, the Wall is missing a brick and you could be it.

On the other hand, ignorant people surrender to the knee-jerk compulsion to differentiate any or all aspects of their identity from everyone unfortunate enough to share their's with them to begin with. Quit shooting the messenger with all this name calling. You can storm off in a tantrum, but the humans will still be here tomorrow no matter how loudly you proclaim your superiority to their kind, and it will likely be YOU who ends up the odd person out in a sea of 6 six billion.

How ridiculous and lonely would that be -- to be the only 1 in 6 billion who proclaims to be keeping the light on for a romantic concept and quaint notion that has no basis in reality?

Thursday, November 2, 2006 12:35 PM
Original article: "Hacking Democracy"

Clever, Farhad...

...but those who are as intelligent, or more intelligent, than you are still see you as a neo-con apologist.

Your behavior is every bit as despicable as it was in your first screed about the 2004 election.

Robert Kennedy, Jr. will always have more credibility and insight into the problems with our democratic process than you do. And now there is absolutely nothing that you can do to change that.

Congratulations, my friend, you are your own worst enemy. How does it feel to be powerless to change what screams for amendment?

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