Women have the right to decide whether or not they want a child. LW, your wife has to carry the baby, and also faces serious pain and risk during childbirth. Perhaps she is just not ready. If you had to contemplate the idea of forcing an 8 lb. package out your rectum, you might think twice about it. Men need to put themselves in a woman's shoes regarding childbirth. And that's just the beginning. Your life will change forever. Don't be in such a hurry. I speak from experience, having fathered three sons and raised them to adulthood.

If you made it safe for your wife to tell you the truth, she probably would have. No one should be forced to have a child they don't want. It is inhuman.

Email, phone calls, and postal mail are not community property in a marriage. This is so pathetically obvious, it shouldn't even have to be said. If you have to spy on your partner, the marriage is fucked anyway. What are you, his mom? Compared to the gross betrayal of reading someone else's email, infidelity is hardly worth talking about.

People have needs. If they're not getting them fulfilled in the marriage, they have the right to get them fulfilled elsewhere. Sometimes there's no graceful exit strategy. People are going to lie and people are going to get hurt. LW, you might want a little email privacy when you correspond with your lawyer about getting all the assets in the divorce. How would you feel if your husband read YOUR email under those circumstances?

On the other hand, sometimes an email is just an email. If the husband needs a little outside contact as a safety valve to make him feel OK in his committed relationship, the LW could have just blown it big time. By showing her PROFOUND lack of trust, she could be goading him into the very act she fears.

Someone please tell me why our society has accepted the biggest lie of all: that relationships don't change or end, that you can get everything you need from one person for your entire natural life? Wouldn't it be better if we made peace with the inevitable human process of shifting desires and needs?

Why would you print a story slamming development? Let's see: Landowners paying taxes and caring about their neighborhood, or--skid row. Hmm. Let's keep skid row. What a joke.

Kill religion. All religion. Radical Islam is the enemy du jour. But all non-rational, non-objective belief systems remove people from their grip on reality. This makes them a danger to themselves and others in countless ways. You can't fight this problem by taking away people's belongings on planes. If this keeps up, we'll be flying sedated and naked before long. Even that wouldn't stop a determined suicide bomber who could swallow plastic explosives wrapped in condoms, like a drug mule.

We need to see Islam AND other religions for the vicious culprits they are. Religious messages promoting violence in any form should be considered capital offenses. If an Imam or preacher of any stripe tells people that "god wants them to do X" and X is a violent act, that person should be immediately arrested. Yes, I'm advocating taking away some free speech. But such speech should be seen for what it is: conspiracy to commit terrorism. We need this strong regulation of religion, since it obviously can't police itself. Until America and other secular democracies understand this, we will keep having terrorism, and we will deserve whatever we get.

Since I was raised in a cult, (Church Universal and Trimphant), I have a special understanding of the destructive forces at work. The psychological damage of this type of environment cannot be understood by those who have not lived it. Unless you can pull yourself out of it through intensive therapy and introspection, it will ruin your life.

That these organizations take root at all is a testament to human weakness. As long as people have a choice, some of them will decide to embrace totalistic "belief systems" which ironically take away their freedom to choose. It's hard for me to understand how modern liberated women could embrace such a misogynistic nightmare. The men who rely on a book to justify their insecurity and codify their domination of women are equally pathetic. When will men grow up enough to deal with women on equal terms? When will women learn to love themselves enough to stay away from these women-hating religions? How can both sexes continue to be so gullible?

Apparently for some, this abdication is preferrable to a true and deep confrontation with their existential pain, uncertainty, and fear of death. We cannot have self-knowledge without this pain. While attractive at first as an escape, and an exclusive club for believers, cults are a psychological meat-grinder. They have one goal, and that is to destroy people's uniqueness and break their will. Mars Hill promotes the illusion of diversity by its acceptance of modern styles. But no amount of allowances for personal expression, tatoos, etc. can make up for its theofascist demands for congregants to accept the bloody bible as literal truth. An auditorium full of pierced and tattoed fundamentalists is no less scary than one of the scrubbed-and-suited variety.

I wish there was a way to mount a secular response to this type of group, but I don't think it's possible. Secularists are generally strong individuals who would never go in for this sort of thing. They do not readily form communities, which would be needed to 'compete' with the likes of Mars Hill. Since we are all different, we have different needs. It would be like herding cats. It may take generations for today's converts to discover the true price they are paying for their false certitudes. Unfortunately, a free society has no choice but to allow this process to unfold on its own terms.