" Maybe she's being a little self-destructive, but that's a time-honored tradition among us women. We do that."

No, not all of us do. Some who are immature and self centered do, just as men. Some of us fight self destruction, and are realy, really tired of the ones who just court the drama. It's tiring.

I'm tired of women who stab other women in the back over a man. That's cheap and sleazy. I'm also tired of people acting like adultery causes no harm. It causes a lot of harm to the men and women victimized by this selfishness. "Adam" is more at fault, but LW is basically telling the world she thinks it's ok to hide her from the world, treat her with disrespect, and use her.

I know too many people who have diseases and problems that are not self-inflicted. She caused the shit and she's rolling in it. If she gets cancer, "Adam" won't be there. If she gets diabetes, he won't be there. Because that means a commitment, and he is using her to avoid it.

I read an article once where an adultress admitted her adultery had nothing to do with her spouse. It started with this kind of secrecy, and sharing of secrets that belong to the spouse. They fell "accidently on purpose" in love, just like this. Have opposite sex friends, but have boundaries.

Break it off to have honor, or accept that she's selfish. People are not usually kind to the other woman.

A naked penis on a stranger in some circumstances means possible rape, regardless of gender. In the shower in prison, a man is not going to be happy about being flashed, because that's an act of aggression, just like the subway flashing was. It's the subtext that's being missed. In some places during war, flashing a man by a man means that he intends to rape females in your family. The thing is, flashing penis is a symbol of aggression, fashing breasts are a symbol of submission.

Flashing vagina (see Sharon stone- Basic Instinct) is a symbol of aggression in some cases. That is a more apt allusion.

The fact that I just had to spell that out makes me sad. Some of the men on this board had better NEVER spend any time in jail.

Men are the ones in studies with stronger reactions to more subtle threat situations. Social biologists theorize it as "protect the family" conditioning, espcially where other men are concerned. That's controversial, and I'm not saying it's definitive, but the studies are NOT pointing to women. Social psychology doesn't, either. There not one shred of evidence in any study in any field that suggests that women react more irrationally to subtle stimuli than men do. But there is some sociological evidence that men are conditioned to not recognize women's subtle rejection signs. That persistence gives some sort of advantage, allegedly.

Having lived in high crime areas, I can tell you that smart people do not tarry when possibly mentally ill people are around. Flashing penises and flashing breasts usually means some degree of mental illness.

There are studies, and a growing body of evidence, that a number of flashers and Peeking Toms escalate to rape.

This is the UN/CIA report referenced.

It says that Hussein had intentions but they were thwarted by the sanctions. It does discredit pretty throughly the Niger document as forged.

http://www.lib.umich.edu/govdocs/duelfer.html

How you interpret intentions is up to you. But this report backs Wilson's assertion that the document was a forgery.

Editors like to try to gin up "Mommy wars" where none really exist to sell magazines. I know stay at homes, and they DON'T have nannies and housekeepers. They work very hard. Most people realize this is a decision that is personal, and usually dictated by less than ideal situations. Some women have to work, others have well paid flexible jobs they love. Other women have inflexible jobs and childcare costs outstrip their salaries. Some women are depressed by the lack of outsied interation, others thrive on it. Every family has to make the decision for itself.

There is no Mommy War. There are a set of navel gazing, omsecure. Type A writers with judgemental natures who feel the need to create conflict to get published.

This is stolen from the film.

Simply put, in my community, the most perfect butt is the "bubble" butt, the large round booty hated by the fashion community and Hollywood. The "Sir Mixalot" butt fromt he video (the kind of butt one will never see in the media anymore). But any butt can meet perfection in the eyes of a loving beholder. There is no equation for that.

If the LW hadn't gone so far, she could have tried to make this woman a friend by taking her out to lunch, diplomatically asking her to lower her voice, and taking an interest in her (everyone has something interesting about them). I've done that before. The problem here is that it IS NONE OF THE LW's BUSINESS how this woman works, unless it affects her work. If she had been nice, and cooperative, she could have worked this out. The LW is rather immature, to be frank. It sounds like she lacks social skills.

As for the race angle, black people get fired every day. I lost a job to a white male with less qualifications (he had vets preference) once- that doesn't it'll happen every time. There are plenty of Olgas of all races and genders out there.

LW doesn't have the judgement to understand what a serious problem is versus an irritation. Sexual harrassment, sabotage, breaking laws are serious. Taking more sick leave, having more vacation, coming in late, that's not a serious problem. PERIOD. Some people work faster; others, like me, have a cable modem at home and work from home. Face time does not necessarily mean effective.