You can relieve yourself of a burden, and come across as being mean and not as unsupportive as you *could* have been. Or you can get back into what seems to be a bad relationship and take a chance on feeling like a complete fool when-and-if she does it again.

I have a personal prejudice when it comes to this sort of thing, having been assured by a supposedly-recovering substance abuser that he was one of the (according to him) 5% of people who manage to kick an opiate habit. I was naive. And I had been socially-conditioned to be tolerant and liberal about such things. NO MORE! Granted, I may have swung a tad too far to the other side of things, but I feel that self-preservation trumps all other considerations.

This is the voice of experience speaking: You have just as much right to be selfish in your desire to be rid of her as she had a right to be selfish and do what she did to you. Don't let ANYONE "guilt" you into wearing an albatross necklace--because that's what substance abusers usually are: heavy anchors that will only drag you down, if you don't free yourself of them in time.

Considering how many women get their drinks drugged--and they pass out and "come to," suspicious, but not REALLY knowing, for sure, what happened--it seems to me that the semen detection kit could let them know, without a doubt, whether or not they'd been assaulted.

...in my experience, there are few things less-pleasant than a "necking session" with a guy who's got "sandpaper face."

In my less-assertive youth, I have literally had my face rubbed raw by guys with stubble (I quickly learned to stand up for myself and SAY SOMETHING about it).