As much as you should be praised for your willingness to be honest and open, it does not validate the flaws you expose.

First, the obvious one: Driving while impaired is not ok. And this is not something you get to override. We, the people around you, all got together and built roads. And because using those roads puts everyone at risk, we put limits on behavior that exacerbates those risks. Driving while high is against the rules, and you shouldn't get to use our roads anymore.

Second, your kid is important. Giving him good information and being a good role model are important. So decisions about how to do that should not be based on whether a stranger offers you a joint or not. I am not stating an opinion for or against drug use. I am just saying that you need to step up to the plate and make that decision in advance.

It sounds like you had some tough issues to deal with. And instead of dealing with them, decided to get high in front of your kid and find ways to justify it after the fact. There is nothing horrible about that, but it is not admirable either. Just sort of pathetic.

There have been many letters in support of CPS under the theme of "This intrusion is a small price to pay for protecting children." Well, if that were the whole story, it certainly would be. But this argument fails to recognize the harm these types of intrusions do to children.

We are talking about visits that interrupt school and home life, induce stress (in children as well as parents), and in the worst of cases end up moving good children from loving homes into situations that are terrible by comparison.

There are a few people who are evil. Children need protection from them. However, incompetence, bias, ignorance, and error are vastly more common than "evil" is. So, is it really a good idea to expose hundreds of children and families to these faults that even good people have, in order to protect the few children that really are in a bad situation?

Requiring complainants to identify themselves, and prosecuting frivolous complaints in the most extreme of circumstances, would reduce false complaints by 95% while only reducing actual complaints by maybe 25%. That would be a small price to pay for truly protecting our children and their families from harassment.

This article was spot on until it got to the part where it started telling you what was going on in his head, and/or his motivations. Maybe he really did think it would inspire something in you. If so, then it may have been dumb, but it wasn't mean.

Maybe he hoped it would be a game... Maybe he hoped you would come over right then and cut in... And he would feel loved and you would feel powerful and the other couple would laugh with you about it. Or maybe it was the only way he could think of to tell you that there was a problem.

As an alternative to the column's advice, you could tell him something like, "Ok... I get it. You want more attention. But that wasn't the way to reach me... Why don't you take me out and dance like that with me and see what happens." (Or, whatever else floats your boat.)

But whatever you do, you should be happy about this. Because it exposes something in your relationship that might need fixing, and it sounds like neither of you would have known about it otherwise.

I'm not sure all of the people saying "you have plenty of time" are right... The phrase "plenty of time" means different things to different people. The fact is, it is very easy to think "I have plenty of time" right up until you have no time at all.

28 to 30 is probably the perfect age to have a baby... You are old enough to have outgrown much of the stupidity of youth, but your body is still very capable.

The unfortunate biological fact is that, while many older women have healthy babies, the chance of serious complications goes way higher with every year. You shouldn't be afraid of having a baby at 36 or even 40. But the odds of your baby having severe health issues would be maybe 10 times higher. About 1 in 200 for women in their late 30's verses 1 in 2000 for women in their mid 20's.

Also, you have to think of having a baby as a 20 year project... Anyone who wants a family and is considering waiting needs to think, "Do I want to still be raising kids into my late 50's?"

I am not saying you should marry the first option that comes along and get busy... That could be a recipe for disaster. But I am trying to validate your feelings. And to let you know that it is ok... Wise even, to let the desire for having kids soon be a big factor in the decisions you make over the next few years.

Someone seems to have been offended by the term "jewfro" used in this article. From what I can find online it is not typically considered derogatory by Jewish people and is simply a term describing a haircut.

I doubt I will have occasion or desire to use this term, but just in case, can someone inform on why it might be considered offensive?