For goodness sake, can anyone spell disection? There are many things happening in this world that the vast majority of people would care about far more that your speculations about the first lady's hair. Geez Louise!

I was married to a guy almost exactly like this. Very OCD and very childish judgmental behavior. I left him because I wanted to have children and took a good long look at him...decided there was no way in hell I was going to subject a child to his controlling BS. Which begged the question why was I staying and subjecting myself to his BS? That man did not have a clue how to enjoy life.

I left, and have never, ever regretted it.

A few questions that may be important:

Do you agree with the war the military may be sending you to fight? How would it feel to be there if you did not?

How would you feel about coming home from the war physically whole but emotionally broken (from seeing the horrors of war), especially knowing the bad record the military has right now of taking care of their PTSD Iraq vets?

Until the military takes better care of their vets medical and emotional problems, I would be reluctant to join no matter how much they were paying of my schooling or how much I learned in the process.

What a great phrase, Nightfly - violence porn.

I am not a graphic novel fan - so the entire story was new to me. I found it intriguing, fascinating and surprising. Exploring dark depths of "good" guys is difficult to pull off well. Brilliantly done.

The excessive, gruesome gore is unforgivable, and makes it into a movie I would never watch a second time. If that aspect had been tempered, I would want to own this movie...there was so much to see in so many scenes.

If my pot-addicted adult child who was mooching off me and living in my house tried to tell me something about my relationship with my husband - I can't say as I would give it much weight, much less be even willing to listen.

I like Cary's idea of joining a group. There is something powerful about showing up for meetings and having to say out loud whether you stayed away from the pot since the last meeting. Accountability works wonders.

It is up to you to stop choosing to escape and decide to remain in reality, no matter how unpleasant that reality is. You are "medicating" something with your pot smoking, whether it's the pain of having a father that wasn't there much or the pain of a mother and father that weren't happy together or the pain of trying to get out in the world and make something of yourself or whatever.

Get off the pot, start exercising and eating right and find a job. Even if you can't find a job, find volunteer work - it will take you away from your own stuff and give you some badly needed perspective.

Organized religion controls people through fear. True spirituality is not about threats of burning in hell if you don't follow the rules. I so tire of the ubiquitous "we have the answer and everyone else is wrong" attitude. Tedious.

Well said. Hope springs eternal that right-wingers will open their ears and minds and think for themselves someday...

I only had to read as far as your comment to sort out the truth of the matter. Thanks for that.

It would have been nice if Joe compared the taxation of the countries as well, but I completely agree with you, goodape, a quality system that works is worth the cost of higher taxes.

(spoken from the single parent viewpoint)

It is NOT your responsibility to get a book and save your BF. Take a good long look at your letter. 95% of it was about him.

I suggest you continue with the Alanon meetings and learn the real lesson there...you have absolutely no power over anyone but yourself. Period.

ew addicts find sobriety. It's a bad bet.

Thank you for making blatant and transparent the false logic used there. Very colorful!

So let me get this straight...

If there is a plot and we have captured someone in the know, but does not talk, if he does not break with non-inhanced techniques..."

And who would get to decide if this person is "in the know"? Do we just torture anyone we think is in the know? Nice to meet you Mr. McCarthy.

"Once Osama attacked, what were you supposed to do?"

Uhhhh....is this a trick question? Get him! Go into Afghanistan and stay in Afghanistan and get him! What are you not supposed to do? Leave Afghanistan and go to Iraq for reasons entirely manufactured.

Instead, we kept spending $10 billion a month so what incentive did they have to stop shooting us and killing each other.

Here's the incentive the Bush administration came up with: pay them not to attack us, and work against the Taliban instead. That Sunni "awakening"? That was this country paying 80,000 Sunni insurgents $10/day each not to attack US forces in Iraq. Much better that 10 billion, no doubt (only adds up to 24 million). The US is the one who had the awakening, here - that paying them was a much cheaper solution.

Interesting precedent to set though, I must say. Kind of like saying: If we pay you, you not only won't attack us, you will work with us to defeat our enemy. Hiring mercenaries is risky business.

Wow, Loon - project your stuff on to other situations, much? Your anger at your situation comes through loud and clear. Sounds like you got taken to the cleaners because you got bored.