Letters to the Editor
bluehammock
Published Letters: 19 Editor's Choice: 2
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Offensive advertisement for "Women's blog"
[Read the article: Introducing Salon's cheeky new women's blog]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]What is with Salon?
How can you start what you term a "women's blog" and
include "catfight" in the advertisement? The term
catfight is extremely sexist. I have noticed that
Salon has been having more and more pointless and
sometimes offensive crap on its site. Last week there
was the whiny and very silly article about how awful
it is when children have homework - shock! horror! -
homework - and now you demean women with this schlock.
If I had not just renewed my membership, I wouldn't.
I am a woman and I know that other women read your
site. Why don't you try not to be such sexist
creeps?
Just a clue - a "women's blog" would not be about how much women hate each other and fight. Who came up with this brilliant idea? I football-watching-20-year-old male? How stupid are your female readers supposed to be?
If I paid a week ago is it still possible to get my money back. This is my third year as a subscriber, but I think that I have had enough!
Bluehammock
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Blog with lower expectations for its readers
[Read the article: Introducing Salon's cheeky new women's blog]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"Presidents with breasts are way hot for the Fall????????????????" You must think that your readers are incredibly stupid or 12. You need to stop referencing this blog on your main page. I can't bear to look at it - it makes me so mad - and also very disappointed in Salon. Who is running your magazine? A junior high pep squad or an incredibly sexist male? Why did you suddenly decide that your female readers had a low IQ and needed to be talked down to?
Bluehammock
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The Baby
[Read the article: Soccer moms + Nascar dads =]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This may be the cutest thing that I have ever seen. I watched it about 10 times!
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Betty Friedan
[Read the article: Feminism after Friedan]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I was particularly interested in the title of this article since it is so clearly tied to the my memory of Betty Friedan. Fifteen years ago Betty Friedan came to speak at Occidental College where I was a student. As an active member of the feminist community on campus I was very excited to hear her speak and the auditorium was full of students. One student, who I knew to be a shy sweet person, asked Ms Friedan a question about whether it was wrong of a woman to want to stay home, to choose to be mother over having a career. This question sent Ms. Friedan onto what can only be described as a cruel humiliating tirade primarily directed at the young woman who asked the question. I remember that it made my stomach go funny and it left a bad taste for all of us who had gone to hear a "hero" speak. Over the years I have occasionally spoken with other friends who were at that talk - the Betty Freidan tirade is something that we will never forget. I am still troubled by it. I am an ardent feminist. I have to this point pursued a successful career, although I do hope to have children in the next couple years. Wasn't the idea of feminism to free women to make choices? Some people find a deep satisfaction in staying home and raising children - some men as well as women. Betty Friedan may have helped to free women to follow careers, but she should not have labeled women as fools who chose to work at home. Somewhere along the line, I think that she missed the point of her own actions.
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Bad Mother
[Read the article: I'm 17 and I do not love my mother]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Some mothers are bad. Some fathers are bad. I have a bad father. I have barely spoken to him since I was 16. Your mother does sound like a bad mother and for you to feel uncomfortable with her given how she treated you for years is normal and fine. Hopefully as you get older, you can create your own family in the people that you meet.
I notice that one writer wrote "you never know how much your mother does for you, blah, blah, blah." I remember talking to adults about my father when I was a teenager and told them similar things to what you are saying and getting lines just like that. People who write things like that generally don't know how hard life can be.
Your mother was not there for you. She pawned you off on others and let you waste away your summers in lobbies and only bothers to try to have a relationship now that she is lonely. It is not your responsibility to love her back or to be her friend. You are nearly an adult, you will be free soon - get away from her as soon as you can - be strong and be independent - don't worry about being a cat lady - just reach out to others. It may take a while but you will find friends and people you trust. Mothers have an obligation to their children. Children have an obligation only if they are treated well and if their mother fulfilled her obligation.
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Co-dependent
[Read the article: I am in an impossible marriage]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You do not owe this woman anything. She is using you to support her addiction. Just get rid of her. Moving out to a new house might be the best way, but you don't have to maintain the old house for her. You owe her nothing! Buy a new house, put your old one on the market and don't allow her to move to the new one. She needs to either sink or swim - otherwise she will use you for the rest of your life to aid her in the pursuit of her additions. Do you go to Alanon? You should try it if you don't. Alanon is for members of alcoholic's families. You might find some support for your problem there.
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waste of time
[Read the article: My son, the stranger]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This article is such a waste of time and extremely whiny! I agree with another writer - I only have to see her hair to know that she would make any kid crazy. Also, what is with making the kid wash the cars THREE TIMES! OK, so the first time he basically did nothing, but surely the time with the hose was enough. Poor kid.