"Sometimes, I truly believe that an imagined sexual relation with a hot, beautiful model is far better than the real thing, and I have rebuffed women because they did not meet my visual standards."

For Real? No way! Maybe science should study the unusual phenomenon that is you!

Did that sound snotty, I didn't mean it to, but come on! Imaginary Sex (aka plain old masturbation) IS better than the real thing. Does anyone doubt this? And isn't rebuffing people because you aren't attracted to them something that everyone does? Would it be better if you slept around with chicks that turn you off?

Christ LW, I don't know who fucked up your head, but jerking off is not "wrong, dishonest and shameful". Pornography is not wrong, dishonest or shameful.

Sure, tell your woman that you have in the past, and still do, indulge in certain visual delights while pleasuring yourself.

If you respect her, treat her well, truly love her, consider her your best friend, and if you can manage to get your dick up or go down on her if she wants some action, - if you are doing all that and she has some sort of objection to your porn, then she is the one with the hang-ups, not you, and you should think about finding someone more open-minded.

However, if you can't manage to get it up and slip her the bone if she wants it, then you need to try to find someone you can get it up for (or try Viagra, I hear it works). Possible outcomes? a) You find your perfect porny-looking woman and you live happily ever after. b) You find a few almost perfect porny women and have a few relationships over the course of your life. c) You never find the perfect porny woman and you spend your life as a single guy with a kick-ass porn collection and a drawer full of jerk-off lube.

None of those is disasterous.

"Sometimes, I will get up early to surf porn, then greet her with a cheery sentiment." You evil Bastard! Yeah, I much prefer a man who sleeps an extra hour or two and then starts picking fights with me as soon as he wakes up.

The only thing that's really wrong is that you are paying for internet porn. Have you never heard of newsgroups? Maybe your a little too young, but I know several savvy 50 year olds who have been getting quality porn, for free, off of newsgroups since before the internet was around.

As for women who think that porn will give men unrealistic expectations about what real women will look like... that's just not how it works. Some men like 'em fat, some men like 'em skinny. Some men like 'em all tarted up in make-up and smooth down below, some men like 'em natural and hairy.

As for the exploitation of women in porn, I'll just say this: Women, as well as men, are exploited in many industries all over the world. There are women working in the textile industry who are suffering, who are terribly exploited, but this doesn't mean that textiles are evil. It only means that the people who are running and enabling the companies that exploit their workers are evil.

If you want to be an upstanding sort of fellow just follow some simple guidelines - Only indulge in porn from good sources, from producers and companies that are careful not to exploit people, and consider giving to charities that help women who have been exploited or damaged, there are plenty of domestic abuse shelters, and sex worker's rights groups that would be happy to have your contribution. - Come clean with your woman, you don't have to tell her your entire life's history with porn, but you can tell her that you do watch porn on occasion, and you don't even have to mention that the "occasion" happens every morning. - Most important, treat people with respect, do your very best to be honorable, and you will be honorable.

...is that it's grammatically incorrect.

The guy - Being able to nail his woman's best pal, who hated him for cheating, is quite a conquest. Kudos to his penis, and to the herpes it surely carries, for that.

Cary's advice sucks. Don't run away. Own up. Yeah, your friend will hate you, that's what happens when you behave hatefully, but she will hate you a hundred times more if she finds out by other means. And she will probably stay with the douchebag, but that way when you continue to let this man use your hole ( cuz that's really the only part he has "feelings" for) at least you won't be fucking your best friend's man, you'll instead be fucking your former best friend's man. A much lighter offense, of course. :/

Go get checked for STD's. Tell your friend to go get checked too.

Try to be more honorable in the future, and always remember not to spread your legs unless you get either some sort of public commitment, or a fat wad of private cash.

This documentary was the most horrifying thing I've ever seen:

http://www.pbs.org/moyers/moyersonamerica/media_players/chapter1-1.html

watch it.

Gambling

General Fraud

Pacific Islanders forced into slavery,

Fashion

Cock Fights

&

of course, God