...if the sexist flight instructor and aviation association owner featured in this article are representative of most airfield owners and instructors, it's no wonder the industry is failing.

>My advice to the LW is not to accept the cop talk and to actively counter it when she does hear it. When sis talks about how awful criminals are, remind her of how many wonderful, law-abiding folks there are (the vast majority of people). When she calls your friend a "black female," remind her of your friend's name, "You mean Jane, right?" Just don't put up with it. It's a silly subcultural quirk that has no basis in reality.<

Yup. Cops dehumanizing people is how you wind up with Louima and Diallo-type situations. In practically every single case of police brutality, the cops in question began regarding folks not like them as scum, and that attitude always greases the slippery slope down to some really henious acts in the name of "law and order." The mark of a good cop should not be how tough they are (which usually gets coarsened into how many people they beat down), but how well they are able to be strong and stay human. The LW might want to remind his sister why she became a cop. If it was to help people, she needs a continued reality check. If it was to tyrannize them, well, she's got a major problem and shouldn't be a cop.

...suffered from Sorkin telling us instead of showing us. Week after week, these supposedly brilliant-comic-genius characters would fight to put on a weekly comedy show as if it was a matter of life and death...and the results of all that hard work wasn't even funny. And were we really supposed to regard that woeful Paulson/Perry romance as some kind of great romantic pairing? Her character was insufferably doleful from the start, and since she didn't make sense as a comedienne, she wasn't interesting as a character or love interest. Sorkin was a lot more into his characters than he convinced us to be, which is S60 didn't work.

>So... here I am in the same spot as you (39 yo) with no legacy.<

Excuse me. Is having children the _only_ way to leave a legacy on this earth? And are you saying those of us who don't have children won't be leaving anything behind, therefore our lives aren't worth as much as those who are "parented?" Funny, what about leaving good works behind, or affecting the lives of others in positive ways? What about leaving behind works of art, or innovations, or just having done a good job? What about helping relatives because you have time to help them because you aren't busy with your kids? I guess people like the below haven't/didn't contribute anything to the world because they didn't breed:

http://www.childfreebychoice.com/history.htm

http://www.childfreebychoice.com/history2.htm

Sheesh.

...while on depression medication just before the wedding, why isn't he still on meds? Or does the LW grown to not like him no matter who he is?

>She's a very smart, driven, independent woman (who is probably a Salon reader herself, or would be if she spent more time online).<

I just love how "smart, independent women" who promote this crap never, ever, ever take their own advice and submit to kinder/kuche. If Doyle (or Katie O'Beirne. Or Sylvia Hewlitt. Or Diane Crittenden) believe a woman's whole life should be being a wifey/moo, why don't _they_ live it?

>Men expect (and they should!) the home to be a haven.<

And shouldn't women expect that as well? Or does that work only one way?

>Look, women can do whatever they want - stay at home, go earn the big bucks, whatever... But if they expect to be married (and have a HAPPY marriage) all of that has to be turned OFF once hubby walks through the door. Otherwise a man could just very easily outsource all of the *wifely* duties - home cook, cleaning lady, call girl for sex without the stress, etc.<

Guys like you don't want a wife. You want a mother.

>...the holier-than-thou crowd pours on the guilt and makes them feel lazy, stupid and evil for even daring to entertain the suggestion that divorce may be an answer.<

That's because the holier-than-thou crowd are scared people down deep. To them, marriage _has_ to be the only solution for happiness because...well...it always has been. :) It's why such folk regard gays, happy single people, and divorcees with such fear and loathing--those people prove that marriage is not the end-all and be-all of happiness. And if that is the case, such folk do not want to admit they have probably been wasting their lives in a system that isn't as all-fired a perfect solution as they think it is.

>I've never seen a woman be so hard on other women (Hillary, Rosie, Anne Heche in this column alone) yet so easy on men (the drooling over Mitt Romney must stop).<

Sorry, Paglia is not alone in this regard. Maureen Dowd hasn't found a woman yet she likes--unless said woman is a braindead Stepford type like Laura Bush.

In addition to Roberts' piece being embarassingly underinformed, it had a really nasty "See, even those accomplished women are opting to be wifey-moos, so why don't the rest of you suck it up and do the same?" tone to it. Injuries are a major reason many players take time off. And anyone who's followed the game for even a short while knows that several players (like the Williams sisters) don't just play tennis--they run businesses of their own and/or do TV/movie/commercial work. Just because players aren't playing 24/7 doesn't mean they are automatically heading for kinder/kuche.