Letters to the Editor
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Published Letters: 1203 Editor's Choice: 20
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Tough toodles...
[Read the article: My boss says I'm a lesbian but I'm not!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"I am so tired of the high and mighty attitude towards women who DO dig lipstick, the feel of their own smooth (yes hairless) legs, and the look of a fresh brow wax."
That attitude results from _years_ of fashionista women being nasty to women who don't care about that stuff. So long as that look 1) is regarded as the norm; 2) used to make nonconforming women feel like shit, that attitude will continue to exist. (And I say rightly so.)
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@skinnywhore
[Read the article: My boss says I'm a lesbian but I'm not!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]>Please talk about your *own* issues, not other women's issues. Other women are perfectly capable of telling their own story.<
I guess you missed all the previous posts where women have mentioned getting grief for not dressing fashionably? Hate to disappoint you, but I didn't make those up.
>Tell us your story, dear, but please do us all the favor of not putting words in our mouths.<
*snort* This from someone who's confessed to being a fashionista and getting grief from "fat, older women." Yeah, like you are all that objective yourself. Go play patronizing and snotty somewhere else if you want to act like you're back in high school.
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Just a couple of thoughts...
[Read the article: "Dan in Real Life"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]1) Dane Cook should play villians or sleazy henchmen or bad boyfriends. He was surprisingly good in MR. BROOKS (and has been offputting elsewhere) because he's got a basic untrustworthiness underneath those pretty-good looks.
2)"Dan is still single; the complicated weekend sleeping arrangements mean that he has to sleep on a narrow cot in the laundry room. (It's referred to, with deadpan gloominess, as "the special room.") In the morning, Dan's parents, eager to get him out of the house because he's being something of a pill,"
I wish there were more movies that addressed this kind of real-life crap in a non-"singles are pathetic--isn't that funny-pathetic" manner. Who gets treated more as a "problem" at a family get-together or a social gathering--the couple with a batch of kids (one of whom at _least_ is a BAK--bad-ass kid) or the lone single person?
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In all fairness to Cary...
[Read the article: Our office manager is a dental despot!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]...he's trying to be real-world and practical here. People do pull power crap, and opposing them can get you into trouble. But here's the thing--the more you let these people grab, the more they want. (The reason this country is in such lousy shape is because too many people-who-know-better have let the Bushies and their crew keep on pushing people around and taking what they want.) And when folks like this are allowed get away with taking with other people's money once, they are going to think they can play this crap on an ongoing basis. In short, LW, this situation is only going to get worse and even though taking a stand now may be inconvenient, what happens when the office manager figures she can underpay you guys and put the money into a vacation for her boss or something? You might want to point out (in front of everyone) that taking money without asking is stealing, straight up and ask if people want their salaries to be regarded as partly someone else's. Apprise your boss of the deal, and if you get fallout, document it. But at the same time, look for another job. This kind of power imbalance makes for lousy working conditions, and if no kind of justice can be had, the job is not worth it.
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Another reason the LW shouldn't contribute is...
[Read the article: Our office manager is a dental despot!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]...the office manager has the nerve to make everyone else pay for her obvious suck-up to the boss. Anyone that brazen is not going to stop at this one incident, so the office workers might as well get ready to get hit up whenever she feels like it.
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Yeah, because people like Giuliani are totally free of prejudice, now
[Read the article: When Rudy goes waterboarding]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"Thus, we must torture multiple suspects, and we can't be too choosy about who we pick because the stakes are so high."
Yup. See, folks like Gibson and thingswesaid are cool with torture because they most likely aren't kind of people Giuliani and his ilk will single out for this kind of treatment. Anyone who lived in and around NYC during his mayoral tenure knows all too well that it was practically open season on black folks. As far as Giuliani was concerned, all blacks were criminals or accessories, and the number of police-abuse cases and shooting of unarmed black men reflected how his attitude infected the NYPD. Do you two _really_ want to see someone as racist and paranoid as Giuliani able to have people tortured just on his say-so? Because if you think he's not crazy enough to have whatever segments of the population routinely treated like this out of sheer spite, you're either ignorant or dreaming. Hell, as crazy as he was running NYC, he was going after anyone who objected to his policies in the slightest after a while.
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@AfroGoddess
[Read the article: Our office manager is a dental despot!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The reason you stand up to bullies is not only to do what's right, but so they won't bully you again. Even in office politics, letting a bully keep grabbing power is a bad, bad idea. It's real unlikely that the office manager will stop at this one incident--in fact, getting away with it will make her think she can keep on. She's made it clear she feels entitled to _other_ people's money, so what's to stop her from pulling this again--or "donating" part of folks' paychecks to a vacation for her "wonderful" boss? Should the LW and the rest of the office wait around for her to pull some mess that puts them in financial trouble? Just how far are you supposed to let an office bully go before they get you and everyone else in trouble? I'm glad LW may have legal grounds to contest this crap (and she should definitely go to her boss about it), because this woman sure isn't going to quit.
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As well...
[Read the article: Our office manager is a dental despot!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]...would it be that hard for the LW to find another job in her field? Dental assisting is a gig in demand a lot of places...