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Published Letters: 1071 Editor's Choice: 19
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And this is a problem how?!?
[Read the article: The family jeans]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]>For example, there is no way that my 3 year old can wear a size 3 from Target. It is way too big, falling off. He has to wear about a size 18 months.<
Well, at least he can wear one of the sizes (with sizes to spare.) Trust me, it's better he be able to fit into a size than not be able to find any clothes at all to wear.
> think its all fine and well to have size acceptance, but I also think the up-sizing of clothes decreases parents' awareness of their childrens' weight problems.... Maybe if retailers didn't increase clothing sizes to accomodate obese children, more parents would notice that they should cut down on the junk food.<
Speaking as someone who gained height and weight around her 13th birthday and began a lifelong quest to find clothes that fit--that's nonsense. And condescending nonsense at that. If you had to take extra days and money to find school clothes for your kids because nothing fit, you'd see that up-sizing is a blessing. You aren't concerned about how tough it is for "slim" kids to fit into clothes--you are using that to disguise your dislike of overweight kids. Nice.
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Typical "wifey" paranoia...
[Read the article: Should strip-club bachelor parties be men-only?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Sounds like the LW has real issues with non-"girly," single women. I've gotta give her credit--she's covered all the cliches here (such women are always after my may-n; they look down on other "normal" women; guys think they are more glamourous than mere wives; why is she there at all?) Why else would she think that this woman is going to spend the entire time looking at her husband? (And she'd rather this woman be up their stripping instead of watching!? I wouldn't exactly call that a "pro-woman" reaction.) She may say she thinks her husband is to be trusted, but she sure isn't acting like it. Lady, take Cary's advice, get a grip, and get help working out your inferiority complex.
Relatedly, women like this are one of a single woman's worst enemies. No matter how innocent you are, they will always think you are up to something--and that you're totally to blame if anything happens.
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Wha?
[Read the article: Should strip-club bachelor parties be men-only?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]>Don't worry that the macho girl will be making fun of you. Of course she will. But at the same time, all the guys will be looking down on her, so it all evens out.<
The LW doesn't know _any_ of that for sure. And given she's seeing this whole thing through her poor-me-wifey insecurities, she's not exactly a reliable narrator. Gee, some women have a real problem with women who refuse to believe all their friends should only be girlfriends.
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Yeah, she's _real_ secure in her marriage...
[Read the article: Should strip-club bachelor parties be men-only?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]>If she's the type of girl who even wants to go to a strip club with the guys, she's never going to get married herself<
>>^ what a horrible judgemental hating incorrect statement^
also shows a lot of jealously<<
Eheheh. These are the type of women who back-in-the-day would have said, "If she's the type of girl who would work in an office with _men,_/vote/be divorced she's never going to get married herself." Insecure wifeys are worse than guys like Brightstar--they hate unconventional women as well, and do their best to sabotage them. It's ironic--as much as marriage is hyped as the one-size-fits all solution to feeling alone and insecure, it sure generates a lot of loneliness and insecurity. ;)
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But...
[Read the article: Should strip-club bachelor parties be men-only?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]>There are also (OF COURSE) perfectly normal friendships between men and women. But to pretend a that a lot of these "friendships" aren't a form of social tender is completely false.<
For one thing, the LW has no proof that the groom's friendship with this woman is anything more than just a friendship. For another, what would it have to do with LW's husband in the first place. It's not "women like this" who are the problem. It's the fact that some married women are so insecure that they think every single single woman is gunning for their man. Such women are the ones who need to check themselves and ask if they have any real grounds for their feelings. I feel very strongly about this because I've seen a fair amount of my married female friends start thinking the craziest, delusional crap about their single friends once they get that ring on their finger. And there's a condescension in their attitude as well that is just as bad ("I'm wifey now, so of _course_ all my poor unmarried single friends are gonna be lusting after my may-n, even if he's a control freak or a shlub or in-no-way-George-Clooney.")
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Well, hell...
[Read the article: Should strip-club bachelor parties be men-only?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]>Not only that, but infidelity is one of the top reasons marriages end. It is no wonder that married women are insecure.<
So, why take that out on all single women? Why should we be always be martyrs to insecure married women. As distrusting as these women feel, trust me, they don't feel _nearly_ as freaked-out as single women do when they find out their married female friends are suspicious of them just because. Said married females could have known you all their lives and know you're trustworthy--yet they toss all that out the window just because 1) they have a ring on their finger; 2) they feel they can't trust the man _they_ saw fit to marry; 3) they feel down deep that women are not to be trusted. And as a single woman, why should I have to "mind" how I act and what I say just because some horny husband or insecure wife might take it the wrong way? (Look at the LW--she not only wishes this woman wasn't going at all, she wishes she was stripping instead.) Sorry, I've seen some embarrassing scenes caused by paranoid married women, and the fact that they want to blame other women and not their men (or their own poor judgement in picking said guy) is ignorant and unfair.