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Here's the thing...
[Read the article: Chatty Cathy, Taciturn Ted?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]>The alternative being: pick up a book and a wrench and do it yourself and stop nagging your husband to pick up a book and a wrench and do it for you.<
Look, there are men who regard house repair as "their" domain, much as there are women who regard cleaning as "their" exclusive thing. Said men want to do all the repairing themselves--or they think doing it themselves is cheaper. Result--you wind up with a batch of things breaking down; guy only doing one or two repairs--or none. That's not so bad if it's a light in a seldom-used room or something minor. But it's bad news when guy takes that attitude towards every repair. You wind up with chores grinding to a halt because the drain is plugged up or the washing machine won't work. And it's insult to injury when the guy doesn't want you to call in a repairperson. He'll swear up and down he'll get it fixed "next week;" he'll "forget" to call the repairperson; he'll find a thousand reasons to not get the repair done instead of just fixing the damm thing. And if you go ahead and call the repairperson and get it fixed, guy will sulk or complain about the cost or find some other passive-aggressive way to take out his anger on you...even though the problem is solved. What AKA Smith is saying is that if a guy doesn't want to repair stuff, that's fine. But he has no right to play games and sulk if you need to get something fixed. If it has to be done, it has to be done--and as someone noted earlier, the earlier you do it, the less damage and expense you have to deal with later.
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See, this is brightstar in a nutshell...
[Read the article: Chatty Cathy, Taciturn Ted?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]>So - let's make this perfectly clear - you think women should have sex with you, and if they don't want to, it's not fair.<
Yup. As has been noted here before, brightstar (and Ben Dover) is one of those guys who hate women too much to see them as individuals. Women are there to boost his ego and meet his needs, period. Who they are outside of what he wants them to be is irrelevant. In fact, if they turn out to not be what he's imagining, that's good too, because that give him yet another excuse to hate women in general. For example, if a woman is pretty, she should date him. Makes no difference if she's a high-maintenance bitch or difficult--she makes him look good, and that's all that matters right then. When she turns out to be a bitch, well, then, he has an excuse to whine that all women are just like her. Of course, this means no woman will ever be acceptable to him unless she's a robot programmed to his specifications. But that might just be the way he likes it--but can't admit that to himself as yet...:)>
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Jeez, reading comprehension, eh?
[Read the article: Chatty Cathy, Taciturn Ted?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]>"There are some domains that guys think are their own..."
Blah blah blah. Because there are no domains that females think are their own and that guys better not touch.<
This is what I _actually_ said...
>Look, there are men who regard house repair as "their" domain, much as there are women who regard cleaning as "their" exclusive thing. Said men want to do all the repairing themselves--or they think doing it themselves is cheaper.<
Did I say "all" guys? Did I not mention that there are women who regard some domains as theirs? You have a nerve putting words in my mouth and saying what I did not say.
>DO IT YOURSELF. Find the Dummy's Guide to plumbing. Put on your Josephine overalls. Fix it yourself.<
And as soon as a woman would do that, the guy in question would say she's doing it all "wrong;" would get angry and ask why she just can't wait till he fixes it--and would find five thousand reasons (again) why the problem can't be solved. No matter what a woman would do in a circumstance like that, the guy would always find a reason to drag his feet. I know a couple like this, and I've seen how this stuff plays out. It is frustrating as hell to deal with because no matter what anyone does to solve the problem, the guy in the case only wants to do it his way, no matter how much trouble, inconvenience, and expense it causes.