Letters to the Editor
Anna68
Published Letters: 157 Editor's Choice: 2
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Oh, lordy, why am I going here
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]I could be a happy single dad by choice, but I guess I am not worthy of EQUALITY, unlike women
Actually, Earth to Brightstar, yes you could. You could go adopt a kid. And live happily ever after as a happy single Dad.
You could do a bunch of things actually. In fact, in the time you spend screaming on this Web site about how Evil we are to ALL MEN, you could be out there writing a book, making a film, starting a family, doing something with that high salary that somehow makes you feel like you're not one of the rich people.
But you won't. Because you do not choose to.
If you really cared about the plight and self-worth of boys, you could go out there and volunteer, coach basketball, be in the life of real boys.
That's the bottom line. You want an excuse for all the things in your life that you aren't choosing to do. You have decided, for reasons that passes my understanding, to waste this one precious life given you to sit at your computer talking bile.
You may think you are getting away with something, or shaking a fist at someone in power or something, but what you are really doing is wasting everything you have to give in this world. Somehow, even though you really annoy me, that makes me sad.
You could, right now, today, get up from your computer, call your local YMCA or community organization, and start doing something to help the young men in your community believe in themselves. You too, could adopt a kid. You might not do it today, but you could do it tomorrow. The Internet is not a life and you are on here for hours every day. And one day, like all people, you will die. Is this how you will have wanted to live?
But it's your choice. It's your life you are wasting.
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AKA, you forget #11
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]11) All two-parent, traditional families are perfectly functional and good for children and never damage them regardless of the characters of the parents, or their motivations for having children.
I may be alone in seeing this, but I have noticed a trend that I find far more creepy than artificial insemination: women in their 30s who marry really unsuitable men *just* to have children. Their partners may be alcoholics or chronically unemployed or god-forbid violent, and yet that is deemed to be "better for the kids" than single parenting or remaining childfree or waiting until their mid-40s and adopting a child.
Not saying that single parenting doesn't have its issues, but it is certainly *not* better for a child to grow up in a home with an alcoholic or abusive father than it is to grow up with a single mom.
There's a leetle bit of cognitive dissonance going on here regarding traditional marriage. It's actually fairly recent in human history that most kids are raised that way.
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Oh, wow, I'm not the only one who's noticed then ....
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]Oh, Men too. It IS creepy.
The three I know weren't so much dangerous partners as merely convenient ones who they liked well enough. Not sure that a kid is learning great things about relationships from that environment either.
No, they're really not. And it is the height of selfishness, not even just toward the kids, but the partner as well. He or she becomes someone you fundamentally just use, for their womb or for their income.
By that standard, there is at least something intellectually honest about artificial insemination.
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I have to wonder where this myth got started
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]I believe in women's equality. But until the day when (if ever) Feminism can acknowledge that "fathers" (biological or not) matter, I cannot in good faith call myself a feminist.
You know, maybe I'm old and crotchety, but all the feminists I ever knew perfectly well acknowledged that father-figures mattered ... but that the sad fact is we can't get a lot of those *FATHERS* to acknowledge that!
Much hysteria is generated about one single upper class lesbian who artificially inseminates, but few people really get upset about all those absentee deadbeat dads.
The vast majority of single mothers are not single by choice, or if they are, its because staying with a father who refuses to be a father is a worse choice than going it alone.
Lately, Bill Cosby has been making the rounds talking about how an entire generation of men are busy being absent in their children's lives because they themselves have no idea how to act like a father. Often they had no father to show them! It is so great to have a man actually being the one saying it!!!! God knows, if we women say it, then we're being "castrating" or trying to trap men into, what? being adults?
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Sigh ...
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]you NEVER told me how I can be a single dad of my own flesh and blood child.
Well, you're probably just making excuses and being pissy as usual Brightstar, but actually, there may be a way to do that if you sincerely wanted to.
Couples who cannot have children because the mother has a problem carrying the child to term often get a surrogate mother. Seems to me that this technology is also available to you, if that's the way you want to go. Get an egg donor and a surrogate mother.
Of course adopting a kid is easier and less extreme. So that would be my recommendation, you know, assuming you're really interested in being a parent. Adopt a kid from an at-risk category, or one who has special needs. You'd have a better chance of ensure you have a boy if parenting a boy is important to you.