Dear LW, please look this up ASAP.

* Rewarding acting out behavior with attention and a place to stay, will teach the young girl that those are behaviors to continue.

*Teaching this girl that she has to be sexual to be accepted by you is a crappy thing to do to someone not fully able to make her own decisions. And you know firsthand how fragile this person is.

*You're going to catch whateven STD's she's got.

*Have you picked out a name for the crack baby yet?

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Quit lusting after this child and steer her to Al-Anon's teen groups, where she won't be preyed on by adult people acting out their own stuff. Form a relationship- with her sponsor.

*Keep your distance* . Don't re-enact what so many of us went thru, on her.

I'll go on the record as finding the views of "peeps" and "rodian" sum my position perfectly.

I'm 47, and I text. It's so handy!

I texted my boss, who's 10 years younger than me. No reply! When I saw him later, he told me he couldn't respond to my text message. He said he didn't know how, that it was for kids. But then the kicker: he said he was too old. And he was happy about telling me. Now in this letter to Cary is another "I don't text" admission. Ours is the generation who refuses to grow up. So what's with this chink in the armor?

Someone should do a study. But I'm so curious what Salon's readers will say.

I trust he can tear himself away from his family to be present at that.

Although I agree with "Impatient" on several points, if one is going to run a story of this type one should not leave out the fiercely original Mr. Clive Owen. He's the thinking person's sexy. An online interview had a vapid young woman asking him rude questions about his income, to which he gently and firmly replied, "That's none of your business." And if you saw the photos of him at a recent fashion show in a beautifully tailored suit, sitting next to Demi Moore you'd see how a real man wears clothes. Salon's list of dullards and junkies would be moot.

As much as I enjoyed Ms Traister's well-written summary of Hillary's historic campaign, I found myself wishing that we'd had Hunter Thompson's pen at paper. What would he of said then, and in this aftermath?

Oh Great Gonzo, you left us too soon.

Hi LR. I've been you, in the past. I choose different actions now. It can be done.

You are so wise to ask for help!

Before, I used a variation of Cary's angle. Reading your letter today, I've heard something new:

The men in his peer group have his permission to grope you sexually. And they know it.

This will likely accelerate. It will take the form of one of these men having to stay at your home because he was too drunk to go home. And he will come in and rape you. And your boyfriend will then say it was your fault and you lead the guy on.

His total energy is on belonging to that group, not in being in a relationship with you. For some reason, he is choosing that membership. Doesn't matter why, once you understand you can't ever change it.

Be very grateful that he's acting so clearly and consistently, and have a great time with your best girlfriend on that vacation. And happy housewarming to your new, single home!