Letters to the Editor
cd4928
Published Letters: 46 Editor's Choice: 4
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Is this your first job?
[Read the article: I stood on principle and was harshly reprimanded]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The LW reminds me of where I was, two careers and about 5 jobs ago. You seem to have drive but nowhere to put it - noone WANTS your drive, they just want you to type the letter or whatever.
Be careful about projecting your own inner angst on your work. Yes, work is often a little depressing. BUT, really, work is like food. It will never be able to give you what you want (inner comfort) because you have to give that to yourself.
If you are able to make peace with YOURSELF, then the pathway to bring what you need to bring to the world will open up to you. You don't need to get locked into intractable battles with superiors (which is just reliving the whole parent-child dynamic). Like Cary alluded to, the "company" is not a person, and it certainly isn't a substitute parent who will give you love if you please it.
Find the root of those values (ie, maybe rather than doing right by the company, your true value is honesty, or diligence, or whatever), and find a way to work with that root even if it's volunteering.
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Try Astrology.
[Read the article: How do you know when your intuition is speaking to you?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Not for it to tell you what to do. But it's a useful divinatory tool to get you thinking in archetypal terms.
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You have a bad case of the "shoulds"
[Read the article: My live-in boyfriend's spending a week with a chick he met on MySpace]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Why did you move in with someone "reluctantly?" I'm guessing that somehow, you grew up thinking you had little control over your life. Did other people make a lot of decisions for you?
I would suggest you get out of this relationship, and don't get into another one until you can recognize your own feelings, needs, and wants, as distinct from the feelings, needs, and wants of others. You seem so detached from your own life!
Based upon your letter, here's something for you to start with:
How do you feel about this situation?
The situation feels bad. You feel regret and anger.
What do you want?
You want your boyfriend to not have gone on this trip. You want to have told him how you feel.
What do you need?
You need to recognize your own needs and feelings as equal, if not superior, to those of others.
What will you do about it?
Only you can answer that.
See, this is just me telling you what you should do, like so many others have. So, use this as a starting point, but take it in your own direction. What feels authentic to you right now? Understand that your feelings and needs may change, and that if you need to backlash right now by completely focusing on yourself, that doesn't mean you are locked into that for life. Follow the ebb and flow of your feelings, needs, and wants. At least know what they are.
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Archetypes
[Read the article: Sarah Palin is ruining my life]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"Perhaps they know better than we do how deeply the American people long to be done with the problem of democracy, to yield to a powerful father-mother pair of authoritarians."
That is some deep truth.
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I like populism.
[Read the article: The dumbing down of the GOP]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I'm probably going to get rotten tomatoes thrown at me, but I like populism. I have no intention of voting for McCain, and I think Palin is a sad joke. And I like Obama, I'm not just voting against someone for a change.
But, as an independent, I would vote for a heart-centered candidate that had brains in a SECOND. Think Kucinich but less flaky. Take Palin, lose the concrete mindset, add intellectual curiosity, and even with not much experience, to me, you have a WINNER. And I mean winner as in a good candidate, not ONLY winning the election.
I think there are a lot of people like me out there, and, more importantly, a lot of Republicans in rural areas who would respond to such a candidate. Heart-centered, simple people really get pounded on, and that's wrong. They may not have the most important jobs, but they do them competently and with integrity (many, not all). That's more than you can say for most in Congress. We need to understand that simple is not the same as stupid.
We will never have the wisdom to navigate the many challenges before us if we don't start valuing the ability to think with HEART AND head.
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Yaaaay
[Read the article: "I find her offensive"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]So let me get this right... greed outstripped racism? Wow, I'm really getting a case of the warm fuzzies. Racist old bags.