Letters to the Editor
Jessica
Published Letters: 44 Editor's Choice: 5
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There's always Netflix
[Read the article: Will you miss "The West Wing"?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I only started watching WW a few years ago when the realization that we were stuck with Bush really set in. For one hour a week, I get to pretend that the Bartlett Administration is in charge.
I'm still hanging in there. In fact, I'm still working my way through DVDs of the first few seasons.
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Mothers who ignore
[Read the article: Blame the Mother, Vol. 23048230545902]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I am also a daughter whose mother chose to ignore abuse in her own home. In my case, my mother didn't "officially" know until much later, but she has still chosen to remain married to a pedophile despite the fact that her children are all grown AND she has an MBA and a good job. She thinks her family is "blackmailing" her into leaving a good marriage (how can a marriage be good if your husband has molested your daughter?).
I'm pretty sure I have seen actual statistics that say that step-parents, especially step-fathers are the most likely to be abusers. Just Google it.
So to anyone who thinks "Imagine how draining it would be to distrust all the people you date or let into your life. Imagine how draining and stressful it would be to always be on guard from criminal attack." Just know that if you grow up in a family where abuse is present, this is exactly how you feel all the time.
I agree that women need to be more financially equal to men so that they don't have to be with a man to survive. But on the other hand, women need to also feel like they don't need a man to survive PSYCHOLOGICALLY. I don't know how we'll ever achieve that.
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Hm.
[Read the article: Massachusetts shrink outed as former stripper]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I almost shrugged this one off. Then I imagined that this story was about my real-life psychologist. She happens to be an older woman who sorta reminds me of my grandmother, but who is a little bit younger. I think that the knowledge that she used to be a stripper would be really distracting.
Also, you have to put a lot of trust in your counselor, so finding out that she lied would be a major hurdle to overcome, especially if you have trust issues to begin with.
So, yeah, maybe the press is making a big deal out of it because she used to be a stripper. On the other hand, I would personally have a problem if I found out my doctor had been lying to me.
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Nuvaring!
[Read the article: Over the pill]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I'm with you, shorterstory. I love the ring so much I wrote about it in Salon's "Object Lust" series: http://www.salon.com/mwt/feature/2005/07/27/object_lust10/index.html?x
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I could do that!
[Read the article: Help wanted: Protector of civil liberties]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Let's ALL apply! Our qualifications? We actually believe in privacy and civil liberties. That makes us more qualified than the president and most of the administration!
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Destination Weddings Rude?
[Read the article: I can't afford to attend my friends' destination wedding]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I'm on the verge of getting engaged and I expect that most of the cost of the wedding is going to fall on us, not our parents. So I thought the best answer was to have a destination wedding. After all, my sister, my dad, half of my extended family and my boyfriend's two brothers and also his best friend all live out of state.
My thinking is that if all these people have to travel anyway, why not have a small wedding somewhere fun? (We don't live in a very exciting city.) Now, I would really, really love to have a big wedding in town and invite all my friends to dance the night away, but I'm afraid that is just not going to happen.
I plan to invite just our closest friends and family to the wedding, but I totally do not expect them all to be able to come. I do plan to have some kind of picnic-like low-key celebration at home when we get back and then I can invite many more people.
I've heard that having this kind of wedding/hometown reception is WAY WAY less expensive than the "traditional" $20,000 shindig.
I don't know the LW's friends' reason for having a destination wedding, but I'm sure they have anticipated that some people can't come -- that's sort of the point. Perhaps when they sent the invitation, they knew that the LW wouldn't be able to afford it, but they didn't want her to feel like she wasn't welcome.
Also, to the people in grad school who resent their friends who have jobs planning more expensive trips & activies: Do you really think they expect you to do everything with them? After all, going to grad school is your choice. Are they supposed to live like they are also in grad school with no money? Would you rather they exclude you? I'd rather be invited to something and decline than not get invited at all. If someone gives you a hard time about your decision, that is totally rude and absolutely their problem. But I think most people, (and I've been on both sides of this) are probably just planning stuff they want to do and they don't want to leave anyone out.
I've also discovered that the best way to get my friends to go on low-cost trips that were appealing to me was to plan it myself.
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I agree: Stop kissing his ass!
[Read the article: The silent treatment]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]People who are mad and won't say why don't deserve special treatment. If you have a problem, say so. Otherwise I don't care what's bothering you.
My step-mother is like this and started giving me the silent treatment at age 14. THREE YEARS LATER my dad got on my case for not getting along with her. I said I didn't know what to do since I didn't even know what I had done wrong. He said I should have asked her. HELLO? Who was the adult?
Being mad at someone without even telling them why is incredibly childish and shouldn't be tolerated.