I always told freinds "I don't answer my door after 9 if you don't call first." Some folks laughed at first and didn't respect that. But I didn't open the door, repeated my mantra, and folks started calling before they came over.

When they called, I'd either accept or decline, depending on my mood. "sure, come on over, but I've got to get to bed early tonight so I have to end it at 10." or "Sorry, I'm wiped out and going to bed early. Catch you later in the week."

this is an older guy living off the system. He's able to walk, use the computer, he could get a job, but he's perfected how to use the system and he's perfected how to use people so he gets free food, cigarettes, alcohol, cable and internet access. He's a user and he won't respond to etiquette, if he respected that, he wouldn't be taking advantage of you.

Don't open the door. When you see him the next day in the hall, just say "we're going to bed earlier."

He like a stray cat: stop giving him free stuff and he'll stop coming along. At least the stray cat has no other options and doesn't know better. This guy does, he's just working you.

When the need to conserve energy in your house is considered, then the focus should be mainly on heating and cooling processes. They are the major uses of energy. Hot water heating is also a sizable use of energy. The use of energy by a refrigerator is significant, and the lighting process for a whole house becomes a significant energy use. Electronic appliances on the whole use a small amount of energy, and are not a major part of energy conservation initiatives. USE THE DRYER.

lol, you just made that up just to further your arguement. Actually dryers don't use a lot of kilowatt hours, particulary since you only use them for 1/2 hour once a week. A refridgerator, on the other hand, IS the top energy user in a household. IT uses A LOT of kilowatt hours of energy and is ON 24/7. TVs use A LOT of energy, especially since they now stay ON in sleep mode even when OFF. Some new TVs use the SAME amount of energy when in resting mode as when turned ON. Same for desktop computers. The sleep mode uses a lot of energy when the machine is turned off but plugged in. Cable set top box? Sucking up energy all day long 24/7 even if you're not watching TV or recording a show. Do a little research before you make up statistics to support your extremism.

then you'd have to use ENERGY to iron out the wrinkels. A quick toss in the dryer tosses out the wrinkles so you don't have to USE ENERGY ironing them. You don't have to dry til 100% dry, just enough to get the wrinkles out so you don't have to USE ENERGY ironing.

you DO NOT let other people define you. You DO NOT let other people control you. He is a monster and you are being victimized by him (doing ALL the breadwinning AND the housework!). Tell him from this point on: (1) EQUAL sharing of chores, (2) EAch individual gets to practice thier own values. You can eat meat if you like and it will NOT ruin the world or your husband's sensibilities. He's an abuser. Don't let him to that do you any more.

You go to the the wedding. No question.

On the other hand, if you even have to ask, maybe you're a souless robot and should go to the work conference. You've been to professional conferences before, you know what they're like. If you'd choose that over a family member's once in a lifetime need, you have no soul.

If you show your appreciation through your actions, the words are NOT necessary.

Maybe you're not one who says it. To me, saying it is a bit unnatural, becuase you're using words to replace actions. If you show your appreciation through your actions, the words are necessary. Showing is better than telling. If you feel like they're looking for more, do more things to show your love. I always laugh at people who tell us they're good people, etc. If you're good we can tell by your actions, you don't have to tell us. IN Fact, if we can't detect that by your actions, saying doesn't make it so.

So SHOW your family you are grateful they're in your life. They can tell.

Turn OFF the computer and interact with REAL people. Then you will get some real problems, it is human nature. But don't waste brain energy on virtual problems. Your real problem is that you thing the decision to friend or not on facebook matters at all. The problem is you're giving something shallow far too much importance.

For what it's worth, you should friend her becasue it's an ephemeral act that's meaningless. The insult of not friending would be more than it should. Click the button and move on with life.

And then start living life outside the virtual world.

LW and ex hardly hang out, but now they're--beyond LW's control!--vacationing in Europe together. Sorry, but too much coincidence. LW is hot for ex and is going to do the eurotrash with him. You know what they say, vacation sex doesn't count. For someone so close to your cousin/sister, you have shallow faithfulness to your friends.

DENTAL FLOSS

She's a mess cuz every adult she's ever met ignores her! her mom, her dad, her Dad's GF!

is your soul mate the one who showers you with veiled insults?