He killed himself because he had a mental illness. He would have killed himself even if she was nice. Don't blame a suicide on any other person than the sick person who felt dispair. This statement shows me YOU're dramatic and are contributing to the conflict with your own stuff.

It is incredibly cruel and probably WRONG to blame the MIL for her husband's suicide -- how heartless. 15 years ago, this couple was 60ish...he could have easily gotten a DIVORCE or separation as millions of people do. His children were grown. You only KILL YOURSELF when you are in the depths of intractable depression and see no way out. To say he killed himself because his wife was bitchy or unpleasant is to ignore the very real causes of suicide -- and I might add, the LWs husband, brother and the MIL are all still suffering the immense loss and feelings of guilt from this suicide, and at least some of there behaviors are a result of that.

I'd agree with you about the gender bias if it wasn't for the huge difference in their Moms and their Moms' different political aspirations.

If Bristol had Levi's mom and Levi had Bristol's mom, Levi would be joining Promise Keepers and Bristol would be talking to the folks at "So you Want to date Bristol Palin."

This is ALL about SArah Palin, and not so much about Levi, Bristol, or society at large.

which is because he was mentally ill, not because his wife was mean. People in good marriages commit suicide too, it's not about the wife, it's about the person who chooses to kill himself. You can never blame that deliberate act on another person than the person who chose to kill himself. If he blamed his wife, that was part of the blaming addicts and mentally ill people use to deny their sickness.

Until you are self-sufficient, OTHER people get to control you--That's the facts.

Make your choices accordingly and don't complain. YOU made this jail. BUT, YOU have the key to freedom. Reclaim your life.

We've felt that way about Citra for years

LW, you don't like yourself. You need to get right with yourself and then you'll find you don't obsess about that woman's appearance as much.

Hollywood has given us the delusion that meeting this woman will be enlightening. She's this insightful exciting misunderstoond old soul who'll tell you what men really want. Likely she's a has-been haggard loser who can only connect with people on-line. She's probably a cheater too. She can't enlighten you. I guess you know that. Looking for her is only a distraction from admitting some painful truths. As long as you're still looking for her you dont' have to move to the next step of assessing what is left of your marriage. And that is scary. But you'll get nothing out of finding her but more aggrivation.

I love the way the one who made the error--Cary-- tries to make the one who asks for honesty look like the villian.