your theory collapses because ALL mothers and fathers DO that work (laundry, dishes, scheduling, balancing the checkbook) regardless of if they have a job 'outside the home' or not. So if we're undervaluing you since you work at home and make dinner, we're undervaluing me cuz I do all that AND bring home a check every week. So stop with claiming you should get a check for doing your own laundry. We all do it, it's calling life. Being self-sufficient (which is what this letter is about, not gender roles)

Until breadwinner loses the job and Stay-At-Home kicks in and gets a job to hold them over til breadwinner gets back on feet.--Which is what this dude refuses to do. So he is not like a housewife who contributes in other ways. He's said he doesn't want to contribut. No comparable at all.

WE don't have to imagine, we've all hit the pavement looking for work, been rejected. We all are afraid. We all wish we could do with our time what we want instead of slaving for the man so our babies can eat. But somehow, that last part, about babies eating makes us do right instead of expecting someone else to feed our babies

^ that's all you need to read

IT was FAKOFOBIA. Adam was repellant because of his plucked eyebrows, thick makeup, mascara, dramaqueen personality. It was that fake DAAAAALING way he treated us that was a turn off. Who cares if he's gay or straight, but he was TOO ARROGANT AND SACCARINE FAKe! And America still has a good nose for that fako crap and showed him the door. Leave him to his devices he'll get just what he wants.

YEA,and so does the hair dressing industry.

Bowie wants to be Bowie.

Adam wants to be Bowie.

No, Adam never said he wanted to be Bowie. But the point is: Adam Lambert puts so much effort into being something, somebody else to impress others. Into CREATING his personae

Bowie, in contrast, Was authentically himself, forging his own exploration. Bowie is always Bowie, even when he was Ziggy. it was self-directed exploration, from within. Creative.

Adam's self image is validated from outside. He wants to create himself in SOME glamourous image, he's looking for the right image to pour himself into. Copying.

As someone said about the to-do over Baldwin's Filipino bride comment: "This world would be a much better place if people didn’t enjoy being victims so much."

Yes, that was a huge red flag for me. Only really scary people can't understand that. You can be jealous of her fidelity to her husband, but if you truely don't get it ... scary stuff. At the least you're an arrogant jerk, at the worst, a sociopath.

National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

You will learn to take control of your own life.

Get away from your abusive husband, yes; but don't wait for your psychologically controlling father to help.

BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE, that is the only way you will survive.

You question if LW's stress led to her being fired because YOU always did great at your jobs. I can tell you firsthand deprssion CAN seriously affect your job performance. HOWEVER, LW wroter that her husband refused to let her finish projects I had to do at night that were due in the morning. That's why she was fired he forbade her to finish her assignments.

You're lucky hutman, you've never had to know a situation like this. As a volunteer in an abused women's shetler, I can tell you her letter rings QUITE TRUE. Please don't add to the list of people who seem to get off on belittling LW, she has had enough of those her entire life.

because it's predicated on the death being of old age, and the life before that being based on honor and respect. If the threat of death is by the husband's hand, that old myth is negated.

The new paridigm is: RESPECT, HONOR, FAITHFULNESS and KINDNESS. and if anyone breaks it, the contract is null and no one is required to honor it. SAVE YOURSELF. No being guilted into staying in a dangerous abusive relationship because of some old prose an old controlling man wrote thousands of years ago. The one who is abusive breaks that contract, not the one who bravely leaves. It's already broken, nothing to save except yourself and your child.

She never said that. She in fact, mentions qualities she admires her husband for, and admits she feels powerless and pathetic. What's 'off', is her perception. She's been brainwashed by her father and husband to see herself as powerless, hopeless, unable to do anything. She needs to break free of that brainwashing and grow her self -power.

My father-in-law just died and it has been a long winter and spring.

I didn't know you were from VA! Will you be visting Carytown?

But has someone make clear that MJ is never coming back to the US for fear of being charged with more child molestation? He's the Roman Polanski of our generation (although he makes Roman Polanski look like a saint).