the sophisticate artiste visiting her inlaws in clear she feels superior to these simple backwards folk, Her condescendion is hard to watch. But as her stay extends, she realizes... wait for it.. they're real people with their own set of hopes, dreams, fears, joys--just. like. her. It is a good story about mistaking better/wrose with different and not thinking yourself superior to other just becasue they don't have a formal education.

why on earth would you want to be friends with people like that? 'nuf said

Why not go without your fiance? Nothing says you have to be joined at the hip for the rest of your lives.

anyone who buys a $450 cell phone and lends it to thier known technophobe 50 year old friend is NOT eligible for reimbursement. That's what you get for buying a $450 PHONE! She who lives by the gold plated phone dies by the tacky gold plated status phone.

seriously?

sounds like Head Case is just a vehicle for B-listers to get exposure.

Meanwhile, first class acting on The United State of Tara gets ignored. (The actor who plays Gene, the restaurant manager should get an Emmy)

this is the 3rd week you've written about "in Treatment" enough already

can you imagine if this cracker had won the election and brought her Jerry Springer trailer park act to the White House. Praise Jesus for DIGNITY!

That IS the definiton of Schadenfreude: both sad AND entertaining!

That is the statment of a high-maintenance, bossy person.

Step back and just BE. Stop trying to make other people do what you want. Let them just BE.

They're just not that into you. The fact that you can't take that polite hint that their lives have evolved down a different path and send nagging emails is why they're backing off. No one wants a freind who sends guilt-inducing emails like that.

Please understand that is what those people are doing to you. They just don't click with you and can't afford to spend precious free time with someone they just don't enjoy that much.

don't say you can't see old freinds cuz you don't have child care, instead say YOu will use that network of old freinds FOR childcare. make a co-op with friends. Call one, offer to watch her kids all day one Saturday if she'll do the same for you next week. Add a few more moms into the system and you've got childcare, and freinds to vent with.

now go be a good example to your kids and proactively find solutions.

yes, there are women who have babies naturally at 38 without invitro, BUT NOT MANY. You could probably go without birth control and the odds are you'll never have a baby.

Training can be rigerous for a 20 year old, much less someone older and petite.

I suggest some information interviews with police and other professionals to find out what professions help the police with their job: forensic scientist, GIS anaylst plotting crime locations, probation officer, etc. Lots of opportunities to apply your skills to improve the community without having to start off at police recruit school.

First you say the problem is that you're boring, then you say it's that you're bored. VERY DIFFERENT. Figure out which it is and solve accordingly.

I could not disagree wiht Cary more. As living breathing thinking souls, we are obligated to be self-sufficient--that is the only authenticity. The only people who should be taken care of are children, sick, eldery people.

Hubby lives of wife simply BECAUSE HE CAN. Because wife has let him. She should sit him down, apoligize for letting things get offtrack for so long, but say from now on, EVERYONE will contribute. It will be in a balanced (yet not symmetrical) way where each contributes what they are best at to contribute to the running of the houseshold: money, housekeeping, organizing, doing the taxes. Being an artist does not absolve you of your human obligations.

Take care of yourself and your child. You can't take care of your child unless you take care of yourself. You aren't putting money before love. He put selfishness before love and duty. He put laziness before respect. You have sacraficed too much of yourself for nothing. Cut your losses and be a good example to your child. It's a shame you thought you were doing the right thing for love, but you were wrong. Love would have made both of you stronger together, instead of exageratting this using/suffering dynamic you have. He uses you and you suffer. Cut it out. SAve yourself and your child.

She's the been the only one trying to save the marriage for the last 15 years while he was taking advantage of her neediness. This is an EXCELLENT time to leave him LW, you feel it's the right thing to do, so do it. He doesn't even care enough to try to put food in his child's mouth. My father would have crawled on broken glass to make sure his children were properly fed. This guy does not care. Even about his own chid. Get him out of your child's life. You're Done FAR MORE than enough to try to save the marriage, It didn't work because HE doesn't care.

so now focus on saving your child by getting him out of that sick dynamic.

SURE we would! We'd criticize a mother would won't go get a job while her baby needs food and a roof, and we'd criticize a spouse who won't talk and gets angry and resentful. It isn't about who's the breadwinner and who's staying at home; it's about what the stay at home spouse does to contribute (nothing) and how they deal with the marriage (resentfully). That's wrong for either spouse, man or woman.