I'm just surprised no one compared this guy to Cho. The lesson at Va. Tech was: when someone is acting irrational and angry, lets stop him before he hurts lots of people. If i saw someone like the author ranting and being beligerant and physically threatening midflight, dern right I'd be scared outta my pants and want him stopped before he hurts us all! There is no way to tell in the middle of an incident if the guy is going to blow everyone away or just starting crying for mommy, so the only proper thing to do is call the police, remove him, assess him later once the danger is gone, and then charge him if he's found sane.

was that the name of the file?

me too. It's good to get it out and write it down, but I always throw the journal away later. No fantasy about being the next great poet who's early work is poured over by historians. It's purpose is cathartic, to get it out. Once it's out, I destry it so I or anyone else don't read it later.

I can't get over the self-centered "My husband's father is dying, but someone read MY diary!"

Can't you step back and make this about someone other than yourself for once?

I can really see the poetry-writing, jounaling, drama queen sort here. Girl, get a grip, your partner's father is dying. Be there for HIM. Shut up about yourself.

not so much comparing this author to Cho, but comparing the MOnday morning quarterbacking. Most people thought the governement should have the ability to hold Cho until asertaining he wasn't a threat. In contrast, they don't think the governemnt should be able to hold someone who's physically threatening a plane untill they asertain he isn't a treat and then determmine if he should be charged or recommended to a therrapist.

The husband was not snooping. Married couples respect privacy but don't enforce it. I don't look in my husband's drawers, but he minute he tells me I can't than we'd wonder what he's trying to hide.

No, she doesn't need to hear about it, and NO, it's not your business to tell.

LW didn't express his motivation in telling. Why why why? Absent any logical reason, i can think it's only to discredit his ex wife?

My answer is NO. And it isn't because abortion is shameful. The answer is NO for the same reason abortion is legal: because it's a woman's private choice. Period. End of discussion. The choice was her private medical decision and it is HER story to tell only. That is the foundation of the Supreme Court decision.

It is the patient's choice to reveal medical information about her own care, not her ex husband's. The federal medical right to privacy laws are very explicit about that.

Dad should always say, "you should talk to your Mom about that" for anything about his ex's life, medical care, choices, etc. He should not presume to tell his daugher about his ex's choice for anything, much less private federally protected medical history.

That's the old saying. And I still support it. But the crux of all of that was each individual woman's right to make her choices and tell or not tell as SHE wanted.

We knew about some very vocal antichoice leaders who took their daughters for abortions so her special life wouldn't be ruined. But they still wanted it illegal for the masses. It would have been politically powerful to reveal their hypocracy, but we never told because it is HER private medical history. We were fighting for HER right to choice and privacy too. So we always honored it.

How bout Rachel harris, acerbic executive in "notes From the Underbelly," and assistant on "Fat Actress"

doens't matter if you agree or not: it's FEDERAL LAW.

check the HiPAA forms you fill out at the doctors. Under federal law, you have to give them permission to talk to your spouse about your medical record. I doubt many people would grant that right to their EX who have dubious motivation. Medical records are personal, and the patient decides who has the right to see them.

It's about a divorced man who can't get over his anger about the divorce and let his ex have her own role in the daughter's life. There are times when divorced people have to step back and let the ex participate and it is the gracious parent who can do that. It is her story to tell, legalities aside. It is her story to tell for many reasons, because it was her surgery, because she's the mother, because it's her health history.

Let's say she had a nose job and her ex husband knew she didn't tell people that private information about her medical history. He'd be wrong to tell it. It's wrong becasue it's her story, not because it's a wicked procedure or because rights activists want to use her as their poster child. It's wrong because it's her story.

What if the daughter asked the DAd why MOm did this or that? As innocuous as the subject may be, any responsible parent says "you'd better talk to your Mom about that" rather than use it as a chance to win in the war agaisnt exes.