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Cosmic Mojo

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Wednesday, August 20, 2008 05:14 AM

but he did have very different circumstances than i,

I have spent some time with some very wealthy people, through my volunteer work (wealthy donors) and some freinds who are trust fund babies (they don't even work). LET ME BE CLEAR: having money does NOT make you rude, contolling, hating and mean. That is NO excuse. Stop making excuses for this man. He acts with hate and contol and he chose those acts because he's mean, not because he grew up in comfort. Please don't excuse away his acts.

Wednesday, August 20, 2008 05:19 AM

though i will be earning only slightly above minimum wage for awhile

What a lie. Minimum wage would be about $13,000 a year. Residency is FOUR TIMES THAT. You're really more like your husband, lying to get sympathy.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008 10:45 AM

dear OM

you are a bigot.

So you're YOUNG. And you get nervous aroud awkwardly uncool older people.

You're a bigot.

I feel sorry for hard working folks in your office who have the unfortunate luck to be born before you.

GROW UP. One day you'll be over 40 and god hopes the young turks in the office admire your expereince and institutional knowledge.

Now go grow some respect and humility and don't leave your room til you do, ya immature spoiled shallow self-centered baby.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008 10:47 AM

Trudy won

she has her own office now.

I'm sure the other office people are fighting over who has to share a room with catty Paris Hilton now.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008 11:57 AM

Why does everyone have a problem with this girl discussing her situation with a manager?

Because part of being a good professional, a good person, a good coworker, is being a consensus-building, working with people who are different from you, appreciating the different perspective different people bring to a team.

STamping your foot cuz you got stuck with the nerd loser like a mean girl in high school might win you this battle, but you'll lose the war of developing a respected professional reputation at this and other universities as well as local theaters and newspapers.

Ousting people because you don't like their age or physical appearance is not only immature, shallow and bigoted, it's illegal in the work place.

Wednesday, September 17, 2008 06:37 AM

grow a spine! get your consciousness raised and stand up for yourself!

You didn't think you "had any rights" because your new boyfriend hadn't granted them to you yet?

Girl, break up and fix yourself first. YOU are a person who deserves to be dealt with with respect and until you know that, you'll keep chooseing disrespctul BFs with disrespectful frinds and you'll be abused (emotionally, if not physically) for the rest of your life.

Stop dating. Start a new attitude. Get some therapy and start a new life where you love yourself, know you deserve respect and DEMAND it. Operate with a no tolerance level for scummy disrepsct.

GIVE YOURSELF RIGHTS, DO NOT WAIT FOR some boyfriend to give them to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wednesday, September 17, 2008 06:38 AM

sure he doesn't respect women

but you don't either, so how can you expect him to treat you better than you treat yourself. This isn't about him or his freinds at all, but YOU and if you resepct yourself, expect respectful treatment, or accept disrespect.

Wednesday, September 17, 2008 12:28 PM

You give this guy ALL power over you:

1. "Since we weren't in a proper relationship at the time, I felt like I didn't have any "rights" "

2. "A year later" [it is still going on]

3. "Even if he thought we were not serious, the fact that we were in a relationship at all should mean that I am off limits."

YOU'RE OFF LIMITS BECAUSE YOUR BF SAYS SO? NOT BECAUSE YOU CONTROL WHO TOUCHES YOUR BODY?

4. "It hurts me that my boyfriend's first reaction is to make excuses for his sleazy friends"

5. "he wants me to just get over the groping incidents"

Thursday, September 18, 2008 08:48 AM

myob

Since you're a social worker, you know that regardless of the theory of the week, the overriding truth is that social workers ONLY intercede with the parents rights when the parents are neglecting their children. This is NOT the case.

the parents have been good parents and fairness, as well as the law, say you have no right to overstep their parental rights since they are not neglecting or abusing the child.

The world is full of different healthy and legal parenting styles and choices. You have no right to disregard that.

myob and go help neglected children who really need your help.

Thursday, September 18, 2008 09:12 AM

what if she actually asks and you have to tell the truth

No, you just say "talk to your mother about that."

Thursday, September 18, 2008 11:34 AM

RE: You have a mole. Your mother and aunt died of skin cancer. You get a biopsy. Without that information, you don't.

tHEN YOU have a very bad doctor.

I've had three family members have moles cut off and biopsied. None had a family history. It's just standard medical practice.

Where I come from, if you have suspicious conditoins, YOU GET THEM CHECKED OUT, regardless of your family history.

Also, regardless of your family history, YOU are advised to follow the same healthy advice: avoid fats, sodium. Exercise. No doc is gonna say: "no heart disease in your family, so go at it!"

No, any doctor will advise ALL patients to live healthily and advise all patents to have suspicious moles, bloodwork, anything checked out.

Thursday, September 18, 2008 11:36 AM

You have a tumor in your breast. Should you go for the lumpectomy or be as aggressive as possible?

What stage is it at?

When type of breast cancer is it? The one that's been specifically genetically tagged, or the more preveleant environemental one?

Is it in the lymph nodes too?

Thursday, September 18, 2008 11:37 AM

You have chest pains. Your brother had his first heart attack at 37. The ER wants to send you home, but after hearing your history, they do some more tests, and save your life.

What tests? Bloodwork that indicates a heart attack is going on right then? Any ER will do that regardless of history.

Friday, September 19, 2008 06:59 AM

freedom means freedom

That is the part that's hard, but rise to it: FREEDOM means freedom to vote as you like, Even if it's Republican.

People are all for granting freedom when it supports their values, but then balk when it supports people with different ideas.

But the true meaning of freedom is freedom to be a democrat, a socialist, a republican a libertarian.

It's like how the ACLU support's the KKK"S right to free speech. It's disgusting speech, but they have the right to it and we're no better than them if we pick and choose who has the right to freedom.

thank your lucky stars your parents have the right to vote republican. They can't tell you how to vote and you can't tell them how to vote.

Friday, September 19, 2008 07:01 AM

I told my parents that if they voted for him, neither my partner or I would ever have anything else to do them ever again.

That's undemocratic! If your parents said they'd never have anything to do with you if you voted for Obama, you've be crying how antiAmerican they are. HOw hypocritical.

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