Not another self-obsessed tortured artist IT"S ALL ABOUT ME and I"M SO SPECIAL AND MORE ARTISTIC THAN YOU letter.

I sense your free lifestyle is funded by your parents.

THAT defines who you are.

BE YOURSELF.

Be self-sufficient. and then the art you need to make will make itself. As long as you're just playing, it's just play.

there's nothing some people like more than telling you how 'vanilla' you are and how higher evolved kinky they are. They aren't happy with all of us just being different, they have to say over and over again what they like, why and how that makes them better than the rest of the world. Obviously that shows their lack of confidance. Most of us understand that nothing is black/white, kinky/vanilla, that all of use have varied interests with different buttons and motivators. Everyone has something weird about them. But most of us are happy enjoying it without the need to tell everyone.

which bring us to LW. NO ONE would do something they want to keep private in an office open to the public. She wanted to be discovered, it's part of her egocentric need to show and tell everyone she's more kinky than them.

Lady, work on finding your center and being happy with who you are, with or without outside validation. Your validation must come from within and once it does, you won't have to play these public sex games any more.

Isn't masterbation, but extreme stupidity

You're maturing faster than Mary. Good for you. Go, grow, be your own person.

Part of being bored with her party, controlling, drama queen Need-to-be0the-center-of-everything lifestyle is realizing you don't NEED those people's undivided devotion to feel fulfilled anymore. You life is fuller than drinking, trawling, gossiping.

It's a natural eveolving from the clique and drink days of college.

This is the chance to PROACTIVELY change your life so you are no longer a single man who lives in a area with no opportunity for career advancement (so move alreay!). go baby go. Ths is it, this is your life calling. Don't freeze and wait your life away.

Go and It WILL change your life. For the better.

YES< you'll feel anxiety. So feel it and move on. Change creates anxiety. But then you work through it and feel proud for facing challenges.

You won't just off the ship, you'll have fun, laugh, expereince life. You'll be so busy you won't have as much time to brood inside your head.

gogogogogogogogogogogogogo!!!

until you become self-sufficient

How did therapy lead to unemployment and lost apartment?

Lots of missing steps there.

You've GOT to get therapy, it doesn't cause unemployemnt, but it does fill in the blanks.

Do NOT tell the MARRIED man you love him. For ONCE in your life, take a deliberate step to improve your life intead of claiming it just happened that way. YOU know involvement with this man is wrong, so honor that. STOP STOP STOP any further involvement with him. BE HONEST.

Be true to yourself. Start spending lunch doing something other than making trouble with the married loser (only a loser would encourage such thoughts with a young single colleague). Think about how he treats his wife, that's how he treats women, how he'd treat you. He's a cheating (in the heart if not the body) loser and you deserve better. Stop thinking you only deserve a cheating married loser. If he asks why you're busy and don't have time for him, say you realized you need to focus on improving your life, reaching goals and you're focusing on career development right now.

Find a new job. Get a career counselor, decide what direction you want and go. This is your life, not a funny story.

^^ that need is a lot about a certian age or stage in maturity rather than personality type or geographic location.

Your freinds are growing out of that phase, and you haven't yet.

You need to focus inward, develop your inner self and you won't crave 24/7 freinds anymore.

THIS crap about Male friendships being logical and reasonable and female freindships being complicated, shallow, difficult. WRONG!

Sensible folks have sensible freindships.

Shallow people have shallow freindships.

Petty people have petty freindships.

It's about what sort of person you are, NOT your gender!

^ THAT IS the biggest false sexist generalization I've seen in a long time!

Most MATURE women and men are good freinds through thick and thin.

Most shallow immature people are fair weather freinds such as the poor poster above practices.

^ which is why we need to close one door before we open another. End the marriage, close the door, deal. Then start dating and STOP looking backwards. You each have to decide what you want and move forward from that. BE together? Then focus on that. STart new lives apart? than follow through on that.

You're straddeling a fence, trying to start new lives while keeping too close to the old life. Draw a clear line between the old relationship, close the door. Then you can start a new life.

But seeing each other so much while simultaneously trying to start new lives is confusing. YOur mind doesn't know what's goign on. You can't have both. Either start a new life or fix the old one, but don't try to have both, it just leads to confusion, being jealous of your wife's new boyfreind. That' s just crazy.